Saying no may not be as simple as five letters and two syllables as it sometimes seems. It may not be easy at all, especially if you find yourself saying "I can't say no to anyone, I can't help it, I'm like this!" If you are looking for an answer to your question, "Why can't we say no?", there may be many different answers. First of all, it should not be forgotten that there may be other dynamics other than what is thought behind the inability to say no. Because just as every person is different, their reasons and answers to those reasons are also different.
Not being able to say no may be a change in your will settings as a result of an experience, or lack of control in your boundaries; your lack of social skills; It may be the way you impose yourself or the result of your unconscious need for a "yes" person who is loved and appreciated. Therefore, for a permanent change, the first thing that needs to be examined is to discover the underlying questions. As this situation progresses towards becoming a factor that makes your life more difficult, you may find yourself in a place you never want to go, in a job you never want to do, or even in a moment that makes you uneasy and damages your sense of personality, in your silent screams saying "This is not who I am!" While some advice may make your job easier in the short term, psychological support may be a good discovery for permanent solutions to your difficult situation. However, some tips may also be useful to you;
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First of all, discover your feeling of responding immediately to a situation that you will not accept and want to say no to, and ask for time for your answers by trying to create an obstacle to this feeling at first. .
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Do not play hide and seek, sometimes the way of saying no can be a shortcut for the other party to catch your limits and get to yes. Be careful when trying to say no by going on and on.
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Hesitant body language gives the impression that he will eventually say yes. So try to reflect all your determination clearly with your body language.
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Catch the moment of internal conversation that blames you and don't listen to it. Saying no will not make you the worst person, the most maladjusted, or the most unstable in the world; just like saying yes Just as the best person does not do the thing.
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Don't agree first. First, understand the other person by listening carefully and then agree. This way, you can save time for another way to make the other person happy by saying no, without compromising yourself.
And finally, just because you fit in somewhere doesn't always mean you belong there. Even though the majority are yes people, try to be "No" because "YOU" is just "YOU"...
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