Uncertainty is a normal form of behavior that affects our mood the most but is an indispensable part of our lives. If we knew, like a prophet, what we should do in our lives, what will happen when, and what we will encounter during our lives, life would undoubtedly become aimless, idealless and boring for all of us. Imagine knowing which university we will graduate from, who we will marry and how many children we will have, whether we will break up with the person we married, the date we will die, in short, what will happen to our lives and the lives of the people around us. For most of us, life would probably become more unhappy, hopeless, aimless and aimless. Since we knew what we would experience, perhaps we would not enjoy the event, would not be excited, and would become indifferent. There are issues in all of our lives that we remain uncertain about. Some of these are the uncertainties we experience in our routine lives. Will my day be good today? When we leave home a little late to go to work in the morning, I wonder if I missed the bus or how is the traffic? When we have guests over for dinner, will I be able to taste the food? Like will I be able to clean my house? These are the uncertainties that we all experience routinely in our lives and that we can often let life flow with, and most of the time we do not even feel stressed about doing so. Apart from these, we also have uncertainties that we do not always encounter in our lives and that can truly disturb us and affect our future. The university entrance exam or our uncertainty while waiting for its result. When we encounter a mass in our body, we have questions about whether we have cancer or not, and even the stress we experience until the doctor's report arrives. Being suspicious of a lover who tells us that he cheated on his girlfriend in the past, question marks in our minds, and unusual uncertainties in our lives such as "Will he cheat on me too?" are different from the examples I gave first and may be situations that will change the course of our lives.
Uncertainties create anxiety. When we experience uncertainty about a subject for a long time, our anxiety triggers our doubts, skepticism and paranoia, which in turn causes some psychological disorders. They give birth. As in the example I just gave, when we experience uncertainty such as "He has cheated before, will he cheat on me now?", we can become suspicious, smell our spouse's clothes when he comes home, and if we have a mutual friend, we can ask him on the phone and say, "What time was he there?" we can call. If the other party gets up a little early or uses someone else's perfume, we can create paranoia and create thoughts such as "he was definitely with a woman and she cheated on me". After a certain period of time, we may believe in these paranoias and put what we have in our minds into action and discuss it with our spouse. This process is not a healthy process and it would be best to consult an expert. As a psychologist working in this field, I see in many of our clients that such situations cause both neurotic (ups and downs in people's emotional states, depression, etc.) and psychotic (showing problems such as not being able to distinguish between what is real and what is not real) disorders.
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