Discipline literally means teaching;
There are many things that our children must first learn from their parents in order to progress in life. In order for children to show accepted and desired behaviors, it is necessary to teach these behaviors and correct the mistakes. Children can only learn how to reach the truth as the truth is shown and the wrongs are corrected.
What should be taken into consideration when trying to discipline our children?
Children are noisy, impatient and messy at times. They are completely self-centered; for them, the world revolves around them and their desires are above everything else. If we expect children who feel and think like this to behave like adults, we will prevent them from experiencing their childhood. Let our children experience their emotions when they are angry or tense. Don't follow him when he gets angry, let him be alone and experience his feelings for a while. Afterwards, you can try to go to him and talk about what happened and his feelings. We know that young children are afraid of emotions, especially those they think are negative, and have difficulty expressing them, so it is necessary to tell them and make them experience that such emotions can be expressed easily and that the consequences will not be bad. Being angry does not mean not loving that person, hug your angry child tightly and express your love. Transfer it to him in this way, and on the other hand, if he tries physical violence, you can prevent him by hugging him. Investigate the need underlying your child's behavior. “He throws everything around and screams.” Could it be that his mother's illness upset him and he expresses his feelings like this? Or maybe he thinks that no one is interested in him and chooses to shout to get attention?
If you feel that they are too young to express their feelings, help them. After expressing that you understand him/her, help him/her to solve the problem.
Allow natural, logical consequences to emerge. Children should see the consequences of their behavior and make small changes about their behavior. k- One should start taking responsibility, even if it is small. By constantly protecting them and saving them from distressing situations, we can prevent them from learning what they need to learn through experience. Do not give orders to your child, give him the chance to choose what needs to be done by presenting options in appropriate situations. Never forget that you are the one responsible for the work to be done. You can add humor, games and humor to the discipline and rules. If your child is angry with you, you can play pillow hawk. If you are so angry that you cannot control yourself, walk away from the environment. Share the meaning of walking away with your child, the harm you will cause by walking away will be much less than the other major harms you may cause to your child. You set the rules and explained them to your child. But he refuses to sleep. It feels like you're compromising a little too much or you just can't say no.
So why might you have a hard time saying no?
* I can't see my child enough, we spend little time together. We are going through it and I don't want to force him or hurt him at those times.
* I grew up with a very strict education system, I wonder if it is right to say no to my child.
* Even if I say no, I won't be able to resist his insistence anyway. I don't know how to solve the problem, so I just say yes from the beginning and let it pass.
* It's better to do it myself instead of spending so much time explaining it to him.
* These and similar sentences may prevent you from saying no. .
Okay; Why is saying no so important and necessary?
It helps your child to be shaped, have a personality, be responsible, free and resourceful. When you say no, you set limits for your child. When boundaries are unclear, your child will feel uncertain and insecure. Understanding his needs does not mean letting him do whatever he wants. However, it is also very important not to constantly change the boundaries and to be consistent in your good deeds. Don't put too much emphasis on being friends with your child. When you become friends with your child and accept him as an adult, you take away his rights from being a child. If you get down to his age, your child will be deprived of parents who protect him, are sane, and set limits.
What should we pay attention to when saying no?
"No"s yum servant, warm; but say it in a clear, firm tone. After saying no, try to draw your child into a situation that will attract his attention and like him. Take a look at how much space you give to the things you say "no" to in your life. You explain that cola is a harmful drink and therefore you do not allow him to drink it, but you drink cola every evening. How convincing can you be for your child? Your child's interest in what you say "No" to may increase, and he or she may repeat this request over and over again, even tiringly, in order to test you. If you can repeat your "no" patiently, you will have achieved your goal. If you do not allow your child to do something, just saying "no" will not be enough; you can suggest your child to do something different. “Shall we cook together”, “How about painting”, “Do you want to play Lego” etc. Discipline - authority - being able to say "no" may give people fear and anxiety when they first hear it. It may not seem like something that can be applied especially against your little child. However; One of the conditions for raising an adult who knows his limits, who can form his personality in the face of obstacles, who knows how to give up when necessary and how to resist when necessary, is to be able to educate your child correctly and to give discipline adequately and appropriately.
No matter what happens, no matter what happens, tell them that you love them very much. Without forgetting of course.
Read: 0
