Friendly relationships play a major role in the child's development, in addition to the function of family communication, so that the child can acquire the necessary social skills and adapt adequately.
Development of Friendship Relationships
Before the child starts school Families are influenced by the environment when it comes to raising children. Therefore, the impact of the social environment on the child can be seen from the very first moments of his life. The child's first social environment is his family. The first person he comes into contact with is his mother, and he begins to perceive the social environment that opens to the world from his mother's breast. He accepts the existence of someone other than himself. Thus, the child begins to learn trust as he develops from the first months. And he realizes that he needs the other's existence in order to continue his existence.
After the 6th month, they establish a relationship by touching, looking, pulling each other's hair, and imitating movements.
9. Between the 13th and 13th months, reactions to external stimuli begin. He may be frightened by any sound, he may laugh at what you say or your facial expressions, or even respond to you or any stimulus around him with his own language whenever his tongue moves.
Between the ages of 2-4, children's interaction increases and therefore their social skills increase. Their skills also begin to increase.
Preliminary preparation is important for the child starting school (no matter which nursery/kindergarten/primary school he/she goes to first). The child dreams from the moment he first hears what school is like. He may feel anxious. “Everything was fine until now, I had friends, it was enough for me, where did this come from?!” You may have thoughts like this.
Of course, the impact of social areas and the social environment on the child increases with school. And as age increases, the influence of the social environment changes.
7 years old:persistent; who is ashamed when he makes a mistake; withdrawal, calmness, exploration of the inner world; Age period where people can be afraid of some things even if they have never happened to them (being late for school, fear of the dark, someone dying, etc.)
8 years old: fast, outgoing; attaches importance to relationships with family and friends; constantly judging everyone (especially himself); easily hurt; Basque sensitive to criticism from others; age period with developed verbal skills
9 years old:anxious and restless; who does not hear or ignores his mother's call to him; stares blankly at authority or complains loudly; sensitive to honesty; The period when individual differences are most evident
10 years of age; more attached to family; generally ready to participate in anything done together; Establishing direct, trouble-free, honest and trusting relationships; able to assimilate the information obtained; His interests are diverse; tolerant, harmonious; not self-centered; a peaceful and orderly phase; A period that is like a golden age when development is balanced
Adolescence: It is a period when the body develops rapidly and the soul has difficulty in adapting. While the sense of obedience and timidity decreases, enterprising, aggressive and active steps increase in this period.
Adolescent: Acting with emotions; unable to exercise sound judgment; think short term; have extreme and rapidly changing emotions; combative; who wants to have his say; the desire to stand on one's own two feet; the desire to gain respect from the environment; having a desire to prove oneself; have a drive for independence; period of pleasure, excitement and enthusiasm It sheds light on what path people who will help the child should follow.
While primary school-aged children prefer to make more friends with their peers, we see more heterogeneous choices during adolescence. When we look at the characteristics of adolescence, we can understand that the adolescent will enjoy being in environments where he/she receives attention and acceptance. In fact, this is why when a negative criticism comes from the family to an environment that an adolescent enjoys, the adolescent's anger peaks. As a result, it causes conflict within the family. When an adolescent, who cares about receiving attention and being understood, feels that he is not understood in the family, he will gravitate more towards the environment where he is understood, wherever it is.
FAMILIES' MISTAKE
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Not giving appropriate responsibilities to all ages on time
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Giving big reactions to the mistake
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Comparing
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Solving the problem instead of the child
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Talking instead of the child
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Imposing unnecessary prohibitions
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Living the child as if he were in a glass bowl to raise it (restricting it excessively so that it does not encounter dangers instead of teaching it to cope with dangers)
THINGS FAMILIES SHOULD DO
Here are behaviors that are the exact opposite of mistakes. should take place. Let's discuss it in items.
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To teach oneself to compete with oneself
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To be honored by the success of others (for this, family members should also be able to appreciate each other when necessary, They should express their pride in each other with appropriate language when necessary)
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To direct their personalities without crushing them
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Observe
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Giving appropriate guidance when encountering a problem
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Listening first, then giving ideas
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Area for saying "No" to create
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Drawing certain boundaries
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Spending more productive time with children
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Making the house a place where good and beautiful things are appreciated
DON'T FORGET! Even though it's a classic saying, it really is A person reaps what he sows. If we sow well, we will leave individuals with healthy relationships for the future.
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