The love that has followed us like a shadow since the earliest times... It contains at its core the heavy legacy not only of our parents, but also of countless generations before them. The feelings that slumber in our hearts and sometimes spill out of consciousness prove the legacy of many historical loves.
Wondering about love was not only about expressing big and special questions, wondering about the deepest parts of people's souls, but also about fighting, war and power.
While searching for the footprints of love, notary documents and identity cards had already begun to turn love into worthless records rather than love. All that remained was art and literature; letters, diaries, poems, songs, paintings, paintings, sculptures...
Historians have always searched for the crumbs of love, in excavations, in pottery shards, in the remains of ornaments, in pictures carved on stones... However, there is no trace of its origin. , they could not find any fossils or a narrative. One day, perhaps one night, tens of millions of years ago, a hand was played, a word was spoken, an emotion was born... I wonder if they then called this deep feeling "love"?
I researched many sources on the history of love. , The most compact one was the one compiled by Dominique Simonnet and his friends. They summarized the history of love in three words such as "Emotion (Love), Marriage, Sexuality (Pleasure)". But they put the experience into three frameworks: It is impossible not to agree…
• Marriages in which there is neither love nor pleasure. Marriages: In prehistoric times, there was no room for emotions, especially pleasure, between men and women, the purpose of establishing marriages was to give birth to children and to secure the inheritance and the continuation of the lineage. Like this; Marriages were made in which there was neither love nor pleasure.
Love marriages without pleasure: During the Renaissance; As sexual pressures increased, small rebellions began. What would it be like if a man or a woman loved the person they would marry? What would they lose from a love marriage instead of a marriage of convenience? However, pleasure in sexuality was still unacceptable, so love marriages that did not contain pleasure took place.
The pleasure of love without marriage: Twentieth century At the beginning of the century, the veil over sexuality began to lift and the chains were broken, and the liberation of bodies and minds accelerated. The pleasure of love began to be experienced without marriage. However, the reverse side of this scene was also strange, it turned into a temporary enthusiasm, and this time love paid the price...
And where are we on the road today? Many marriages are still established for the purpose of giving birth to children and securing the inheritance and continuation of the lineage, and generally women (we cannot deny men as well) are forced to marry by their families. Or they continue to deceive themselves with the myth that they made a marriage of convenience.
In marriages that start as love marriages, when couples do not continue their emotional nourishment, they begin to become insensitive to each other, their marriage turns into a routine life, devoid of pleasure, monotonous, boring. .
Those who try to experience the joy of love without marriage are stuck between two choices: social pressures or the love they want to experience? Both ends are sharp knives, they hurt no matter which way they go.
At the end of the historical journey of love, human beings want all three... So; A lasting love that is pleasurable and will also result in marriage...
Hope you find all three...
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