There can be people around you who are shy in social environments, stand back, do not want to talk
do not express themselves and do not want to be in crowds if possible
. Social phobia is a condition that is often confused with the shy personality structure
, but they are two different things.
The person with social phobia actually wants to participate in activities
in social environments, but cannot participate due to intense stress and anxiety.< br /> However, people with Shy personality structure are content with their situation and
they do not want to participate anyway, they hold back.
A person with social phobia feels as if he is naked on stage
in front of others and experiences intense distress. . Other people act with the idea
that they will see all my shortcomings, they will criticize me, they will judge me. This is especially true when they have to perform
. He has a lot of difficulty
in situations such as public speaking,
meeting new people, speaking in front of authority, and tries to avoid it if possible. Expressing contradictory ideas with others, eating in a crowd, participating in social gatherings, going as a guest
, making jokes to oneself, talking on the phone in a crowd,
eating in front of a crowd cause intense distress. p>
Fear and anxiety of doing a word or action that will embarrass or humiliate her in such environments, fears that others will notice this
and will be judged negatively, sweating, trembling, muscle
tension It can cause symptoms such as facial flushing, trembling of the voice, hot and cold flushes, and dizziness.
Here, intense distress is at the forefront, and the desire and behavior to escape from this anxiety-provoking environment is at the forefront. comes to plan. Panic attacks may accompany some of them. The behavior of avoiding and providing security comes into play.
With the activation of this situation, his life begins to be restricted and
leads to deterioration of functionality and further decrease of his confidence.
Over time, his self-perception is affected by this.
begins to feel and believe as a worthless person.
It can be divided into pervasive social phobia and limited social phobia. Limited social
phobia also experiences this problem only in certain situations, and it does not occur in every environment
. He experiences trouble there, but stays there despite the trouble, and does not show an avoidance
behavior. Pervasive social phobia, on the other hand, covers all crowded environments
and shows avoidance and safety
behavior together with intense distress.
Traditional roles, upbringing, bad memories, frequent criticism, wavering
Childhood experiences such as passing through are effective in the formation of this condition.
Half of the cases come to treatment with depression. Half of the cases are single or
separated people. Half of the cases have a low education level. He thinks that he is looked at, examined, evaluated, and tries to test
this. They prefer to sit in camouflaged places that will not attract much attention
. Most of them have sub
wetting stories in their childhood which we call enuresis. As depression develops over time and depression begins to accompany this situation, suicidal thoughts
also begin to develop. The person is disturbed
because of this feature he has and he is aware that he has limited his life, and therefore he cannot show activity as much as he wants in life. In schizoid and schizotypal personality disorders, the
person is content to be isolated and does not feel uncomfortable. He prefers to lead an isolated life
.
Someone with social phobia is more disturbed by eye contact than
. Making eye contact means putting pressure on him/her. />
As the severity of social phobia increases, the person's skills begin to deteriorate over time. Faulty information processing is at work in the mind and this will be changed with
therapy. The person experiences anxiety before entering an environment,
continues to experience a different anxiety while in the environment, and a different anxiety after leaving the environment
. Automatic thoughts come into play. They had intermediate and core beliefs that were wrong
These are self-related situations that can only be changed
with therapy.
Before a person enters a situation, thoughts like these may cross his mind.
I can't think of anything to talk about, I'm going to say something stupid and
br /> they will laugh at me, I will freeze, it will turn out that I am a boring person,
my face will turn red, my hand will shake, I will not be able to adjust my tone and this
people around will notice, I will lose control, everyone
will look at me and criticize , I must not show any sign of weakness, I must get everyone
approval, I'm a weirdo, I'm a boring person, I'm stupid
and people will never like me. and the person
surrenders to these erroneous beliefs and thoughts in his mind and organizes his life in this
direction.
People with social phobia will not be loved, I will not be accepted
intensely because of humanitarianism. they need validation. They evaluate neutral
situations as negative. They are constantly watching themselves.
They are constantly thinking about how others see me. They interpret their inner
sensations to the outside world and look at them
they believe that they see me just as I think, and they collect data to test this
. When this happens, their physical symptoms increase and they are in an effort to realize the scenario they have created in their minds. They are
after collecting data to confirm the hypothesis.
Their attention is selectively directed to their inner world. Feelings of guilt and inadequacy are intense. They create a negative self-image and consider themselves
as worthless, insignificant, undeserving.
It is very important to question this, as the expectations and predictions created in their heads are accepted without question
. In all environments
is it really like that or is it in an erroneous generalization
that this needs to be questioned first. The second
stage consists of separating the person's selective attention from the inner world and directing it to the outer world, and realizing how wrong he is when they think
what is really going on. As we notice inaccuracies in the tested predictions
gen handling will decrease. Asking those who have had similar experiences,
evaluating the situation with them and understanding the parts where they were wrong can also provide support. Writing down her fears and worries and making connections such as how the memories
come to her mind when concentrating on these fears
are important steps
to overcome this situation. What if some people think
badly about you? Why are you making this so big? Why does everyone
have to approve of you. What need is this
expectation that will meet your needs? It should be looked at here. Thus, the emergence of inner awareness
will enable the questioning and processing of some situations that the person covers with acceptance
. his situation should be questioned and
he should try to save himself from the perfectionist understanding
allow himself the margin of error and admit it.
Is it the end of the world to be ashamed, to have made a mistake? Is it an irreversible
way to look here, and improving mental flexibility
developing adaptation skills will make the person in a situation where he/she can cope with this situation.
Of course, having this problem makes the person makes them unhappy and lowers the quality of life
. It hinders ability and effectiveness
and reduces efficiency in life. But usually
they do not apply to therapy because of this problem and they refer to specialists after accompanying depression
or panic attack. Over time, the use of alcohol and substances becomes the behaviors they use to cope with these situations. It is one of the first diseases seen in the USA. They usually start
at or between the ages of three, but it is only after they are older that they seek treatment.
These people usually do not see the positive ones because they act like a radar that constantly searches for the negatives
. The mind is constantly preoccupied with the thought of being watched and judged by others
. Supporting your fears
they create the delusions themselves, and then they start off with these body
sensations and go to the way of realizing the scenario they set up
. This situation, which turns into such a closed system, is perceived as under the control of the person
and turns into a disease.
First, they evaluate the external environment, look for negative sides, and
thus anxiety develops. When anxiety develops, their attention turns to inner
clues and their own bodily sensations, and after this stage,
negative evaluation peaks. Now the anxiety is at the highest level.
Their perceptions are exaggerated and biased towards the negative, they are not objective. This is certain
they are accepted as such and do not think hypothetically.
They do not think in alternatives. For them, entering an environment is like walking a tightrope
. They see every negativity to be experienced as a
situation where their personality will be damaged. They have an exaggerated acceptance
of being considered unworthy by other people. Loss of love and fear of abandonment are very
fears of abandonment.
In secondary social phobic situations,
social phobia may develop in people after some somatic
illnesses, accidents or disability. In some neurological diseases, parkinson's, muscle
diseases, this situation may develop in some people. The difference is that people
are aware of their own situation and do not meet all the criteria
of social phobia.
How are they likely to run in families. They may have come from a neglected and rejecting family environment, an overprotective family environment, or a less
caring family environment. They always have negative
fantasies in their heads and they have high expectation anxiety. Since it starts at school age, there is a situation that affects their success as well.
The basic need of human being is to establish bonds and to feel confident
with these bonds. Thus, it assumes roles in society, tests roles
and positions itself in life as a social being. Social
phobia, on the other hand, interrupts exactly these basic situations and needs, and
creates a great barrier in front of people's self-creation and makes people
unhappy.
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