This must be a phrase familiar to many mothers and fathers. Especially if your child has an intimate relationship with his nails…
Well, have you ever thought about it? Why might your child be biting his nails? And even though you warn him every time... Maybe the answer is in the question. How so, I can hear you asking?
Maybe the moment you communicate with your child, there is only a nail-biting moment.
Children's world is simple. They just want to be understood, loved and feel safe. They see even some minor mischief as a way of communicating with you. “Even if you are angry with your child.” This is a very sad situation.
Let's talk about nail biting;
Does your child continue to bite nails despite all your efforts, insistence, punishments and even rewards?
First of all, I would like to point out that; If your child is 2 years old or younger and shows nail or finger sucking behavior, do not try to panic or put pressure on your child. Because this behavior is a behavior that compensates for the deficiency in the sucking period.
If there is a nail biting behavior that coincides with the next period during the sucking period, this is described as an expression of lack of confidence. During this period, parents' oppressive attitudes and behaviors cause the child to constantly put his hand in his mouth.
How to Approach a Child Who Bites Nail?
Nail biting behavior may be an expression of a conflict in the child's spiritual world. If during this period the child's parent tries to prevent it by taping his/her hands, applying hot nail polish to his/her nails, or putting hot peppers on his/her hands, this pressure on the child may turn into a psychological anxiety and a traumatic memory. Even if the child stops nail biting behavior in the face of this situation, it will reoccur after a while.
Therefore, what is important is;
The problem that exists in the child's spiritual world. To solve is to try to understand it. The first step in trying to understand your child is;
1-The child may have difficulty expressing his/her feelings. A child who feels under pressure has difficulty expressing his emotions, and as a result, he may bite his nails. behavior emerges. When you observe your child, if his nail biting behavior shows itself in a timid manner, he may be feeling insecure. In this case, the point to be considered is that the tone of voice and the way of addressing the adult or the parents who are with the child should not be harmful to the child's self.
2-The relationship between the child and the mother. It may be a result of a connection problem. The child must trust that his mother loves him and there must be a bond of love between them. The child should not be rejected by the mother when he wants his need for love to be met.
If the child can be himself in the social environment he is in, realizes that he can do a job, and feels approved by adults rather than being criticized, he may exhibit nail-biting behavior. It will leave on its own.
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