Self-confidence, that is, the concept of self-confidence, is the individual's belief in himself while doing something and being able to say "I can do this job, I can overcome it". Self-confidence is not an innate feeling, it is a feeling whose effect will increase or decrease over time. While the things we achieve increase our self-confidence, we may lose self-confidence over time as the number of things we fail to do increases, so self-confidence is not an immutable pattern. The role of the family has an important place in the child's self-confidence development. Self-confidence can develop when a child is given responsibilities appropriate to his age and given the opportunity to do things he can do himself.
Self-confidence is, of course, not only under the influence of the family, but it is one of the leading factors since it is the place where the child receives his first education. When the school and other caregivers display the same attitude, the child's self-confidence improves. We cannot deny that time is important in our lives, however, sometimes we need to get somewhere, sometimes we need to leave the environment we are staying in quickly. Sometimes we think we should do some work ourselves. For example, 'Oh, he doesn't know, he can't do it.' don't we say? 'Oh, he pollutes the environment, he spills it on himself, he can't fill his stomach completely, let me put his shoes on, I can't get to work now, etc. We keep saying sentences containing hundreds of excuses like this. Sometimes we ask him to bring some water, but when he doesn't, we say: 'You've grown up, you can't even bring water'. When something else happens: 'You are small, you can't do this'. How much does using contradictory expressions towards children affect the child's sense of trust in his environment and himself?
Points to consider when giving responsibilities: - It is necessary to give responsibilities appropriate to the child's age and developmental period. Giving responsibilities that the child cannot fulfill, as well as giving responsibilities that are too easy for the child to carry out and that are too easy for the child's development level, can negatively affect development.
When giving responsibility, it is necessary to give them the opportunity to make choices whenever possible. It is necessary to be careful not to be imperative and to use appropriate social words. It is necessary to be careful not to use long and incomprehensible sentences and to give instructions appropriate to the child's development level. Evaluating well the situations in which the child wants to take responsibility and fulfilling the responsibility without discouragement It is necessary to help. It is necessary to encourage the child to fulfill his/her responsibility. It is necessary to support and reward when he behaves responsibly. Responsibilities should be increased in direct proportion to the child's age.
RESPONSIBILITIES THAT CHILDREN CAN TAKE ON BETWEEN THE AGE OF 2 AND 4
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Eating alone at the table.
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Sleeping alone.
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Ability to clean hands and face.
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Brushing your teeth, dressing and undressing with help.
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Throwing your dirty clothes into the basket.
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Choosing clothes, food to prepare, going for a walk. Participating in the decision process on issues such as location.
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Where to be while playing, Protecting your toys.
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Putting books, magazines and newspapers away. ,
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Doing simple errands for parents.
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Turning on and off simple electronic devices such as TV and radio.
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Helping to place materials after shopping.
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Placing light and unbreakable materials on low shelves.
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Placing napkins and non-breakable materials on the dining table.
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Taking out the garbage
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Collecting their toys.
IT WILL MAKE THEM HAPPY TO SEE THEM ACHIEVE SOMETHING...
Responsibilities that children can take on at the age of 5
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Taking good care of your belongings,
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Placing your clean clothes in a drawer or closet,
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Folding the clothes you take off and putting them in your closet,
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Answering the phone appropriately,
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Combing one's hair,
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Putting away his plate after eating,
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Helping to prepare simple foods,
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Collecting his toys
Responsibilities that children can take on at the age of 6
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Dressing and undressing alone,
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Helping prepare and clear the table,
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Accidentally breaking the table collecting the logs,
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Helping to tidy up the house,
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Watering the flowers,
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Washing vegetables,
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Tiing one's own shoes,
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Cleaning one's own shoes,
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Checking the taps and lights when leaving the house and turning them off if they are on
If we examine the order of development, the last muscle group to develop is the fine motor muscles. Fine motor muscles need to be developed to tie shoelaces. When the child reaches the age of 5-6, allow him to tie his own shoelaces. If the child is having difficulty, give him some time, if he still cannot do what he wants to do, try to help by using supportive expressions, tie his shoelaces together if necessary. Although it may seem like something unimportant to you, remember that it may be very important for your child. Let's not forget that your child acquires the foundations of his personality between the ages of 0-6. If you accept him as an individual during this period, he will have a strong character in the following years. In later life, your child may become a self-confident individual who can make decisions freely and take responsibility.
The important thing is not to help our child; It means leaving the work he can do to him and helping him with the work he cannot do. If the child can handle the tasks he/she can do and provides such comfort, the parent and the child will have self-confidence.
See your child as an individual and treat him/her as such. We should let the child do the work he can do: let him dress, eat, pick up his toys. If he makes a mistake, we must first accept that; There is nothing more normal than this. When he makes a mistake, we patiently say, "Look, mommy, sister, daddy, etc., it would be better if we do it this way," without getting angry, and we focus the child's consciousness on the solution, not the problem. We must thank, apologize, respect, be silent when he sleeps, count, love... In this case, the child grows up with the awareness of "I am an individual". The seeds of the bad thought "I am worthless" will not be planted in the subconscious field. If children have the feeling that they are trusted a little, they can only They can do better than what they do.
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