A phenomenon that entered our lives in the 2000s, when technology crossed borders, and that it no longer manages us, but us: SOCIAL MEDIA
At first, there was ICQ, which we could use only with a pseudonym, on our desktop computers. Young people today don't know him. It was pretty innocent compared to the current social media frenzy. It was really an intermediary that we talked to our friends about. The mobile phone had just come out and it was a great invention that allowed us to talk to more than one person at the same time because home phone bills were too high. No one could have predicted that this invention, which aimed to increase communication, would reach a point where it would destroy communication in the future.
Later, mobile phones were the first to jump in size. Apart from making phone calls and writing messages, phones opened all over the world have brought with them various applications. The one that made itself known the most was FACEBOOK. Then Instagram, Snapchat, Tinder and many other modern inventions developed.
The main point of these inventions is to communicate with friends or relatives who are far away. So what do we use it for? First of all, flirting and dating are now all thanks to these applications. Carefully selected pictures, “like” button, 1-2 comments, then direct messaging, then switching to Whatsapp and meeting. The purpose of these meetings covers a wide range from a real relationship to a one-night stand. How many likes you get or how many followers you have began to be considered the biggest popularity and such a thing as buying followers with money was invented. Actually, they have only one purpose. And that is to be liked, cared for and loved. Everyone needs to be liked and loved, but having this in a virtual environment only saves the moment. We don't realize it at all, but we are becoming more and more lonely. We now always have a phone in our hands when we spend time socializing with our friends or family. Conversations are interrupted, emotions are suppressed, dissatisfaction increases. To cope with this, social media is being attacked more. Fake lives are starting to be lived in pursuit of more likes.
On the other hand, real envy arises for fake lives. Isn't your financial situation good? Everyone's holidays are starting to fade away. Did you lose a loved one, a friend or a family member? everyone's friend and family It's starting to sink in. Have you just broken up with your lover? The poses of the lovers are starting to bother him. You start to see what's missing and you start comparing yourself with other people's lives. At first you think it's meaningless, but whatever happens, after a while, you forget the meaninglessness and start to perceive this fakeness as real, and you start to feel helpless, hopeless, worthless, lonely.
Is my message sent or not, single tick or double tick? whether the teak is blue or not, whether it is online or offline, whether it has posted a new picture or not, where it was last time, who it was friends with, who liked it, who liked it, etc. Are you aware of how much time you spend on these during the day? Instead, wouldn't you be more satisfied if you spent time for yourself, rested, tried to produce new ideas, and helped people?
So, is there any good side to social media? Of course there is. Thanks to social media, we can follow real news, especially in our country where press bans are increasing. We can announce our work. In this era when everything happens so fast and the struggle for life reaches serious levels, we can develop social networks because we cannot spend much time on socializing. We can discover new ideas. We can meet our relatives who are really far away.
However, the problem is that if we are not conscious users, we will inevitably experience psychological depression due to its disadvantages. I'm not saying don't use it at all. I think everyone should use social media as long as it is useful for you, but being on it 24-7, comparing yourself with other lives, and making this comparison with fake lives alienates the person from himself moment by moment.
Especially the parents of teenagers should be very careful. It is necessary. Adolescence is already an emotionally difficult process. In this process, it is very easy for social media to take over a teenager. Social media is literally a poisonous virus in the discovery stage of adolescents who have not yet discovered the questions "who am I and what do I want?" Parents who try to calm their children by giving them phones, what will they use to calm them down when they grow up?
Hope you become a conscious social media user...
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