Should he make his manager happy, keep track of his special days with his wife, take care of his aging parents, or spend quality time with his children? While all this is happening, it needs to establish these balances and at the same time remain constructive, progressive and have high self-worth. So far, the problem can be solved to a certain extent. But one small glitch can break this whole steady point.
I don't know if you've ever noticed, but in literature, in art in general, and even in science, what we call adulthood is rarely the focus. But on the other hand, many things describe adulthood. Childhood, adolescence and old age are emphasized and studied with all their unique characteristics. But almost half a century of life, called adulthood, does not shine or shine. Because adulthood is everything that happens to us while we think we are evolving from one thing to another.
Adulthood does not have an entrance gate. While sexual maturity was a criterion of adulthood in ancient times, over the centuries the definition has been expanded to the state of majority and a short but shocking state such as adolescence has been included. According to modern view, it lasts until the age of 30. But in fact, the transition to adulthood is entirely individual. Some say they became an adult "when their father died", some say they became an adult "when they were able to earn a living", and some reject adulthood until their last breath. It becomes distressingly difficult to think that child workers, child brides, and child sex workers are still children. Therefore, adulthood lies not only in the turning points of our individual stories, but also in socioculturally determined roles. Once we enter, a process begins that is very difficult to get out of, and it is a journey that draws you in no matter how much you try to get off the path.
I don't know if it's me perceiving it that way, but adulthood has a pressure on us from the very beginning: being grown up and actually being a Being able to do it on the other hand. Isn't this how it actually happens? An anonymous quote that I love says, "If you're not tired, it's not adult life." Adulthood really comes with responsibilities, obligations and rules. Even if you were naughty in high school, you realize that you have to "come to your senses" and work hard the year you enter university. Even though you may feel like you can continue the dizziness of adolescence for another four years when you enter university, You need to do the right internship and prepare for your possible career. In a way, whether you pursue a job when you graduate depends entirely on the opportunities of the family you come from and, even more, on how well these opportunities can be transferred to you completing your master's degree and polishing your student career a little more. That's right, most young people with academic interests can jump into the business life, which is like a witch's cauldron, with the concern of bringing income to the house or establishing their own family. Of course, if he can be "appointed", if he has the luck and skills to stand out among the army of unemployed people. In short, the bread is in the lion's mouth now, and the condition of being an adult is not to be afraid of getting lost.
Let's say you got a job, established your order and got over the shock of the first few years. This time, other financial, spiritual, familial and social burdens await you. For example, after a good education and experience, you started working in a corporate company with a good title. Or you had the courage to start a business where you could work independently. Everything seems to be fine, but the expectations from you are never stopped. There are many challenges awaiting white-collar workers in this age. I don't say this ironically, earning upper-middle income is not enough for adulthood. It needs to explain how to dress well, eat and drink, take the children to a variety of courses, and go on a hotel holiday as a family instead of going to your family in your hometown. Should he make his director happy, keep track of his special days with his wife, take care of his aging parents, or spend quality time with his children? While all this is happening, it needs to establish these balances and at the same time remain constructive, progressive and have high self-worth. So far, the problem can be solved to a certain extent. However, a small glitch can disrupt this whole stable point: suddenly being unemployed, without a title, having to take home and care for an elderly and sick parent, falling in love with someone other than one's spouse and wondering what to do. From this point on, accepting this shock as a part of adult life, being able to reorganize the "order" and making decisions. Adult life is also the decision-making center of your life...
Difficulties regarding adult life are not only experienced in the upper middle class. Millions of families in this country live on the hunger line. But even though the troubles seem very different, their basis is the same: existence. To exist this time More than satisfying their personal development curiosity with life coaches or yoga. There is a concern here to maintain physical existence. There is having to endure intense working hours, trying to feed and nourish oneself, having to limit one's child who wants to study outside the city due to financial difficulties, and being deprived of any activity or pursuit that can remind oneself that one is human. In terms of relationships, the burden is higher than the urban nuclear family. Because for most families in this situation, society is embodied first and foremost in their own extended family. It is always the closest circle that demands, intervenes and judges. For these reasons, I think that this sociocultural structure creates less of an independent field called adulthood. Because relationships are more intertwined, more central. However, there are still obligations, fatigue and decision-making processes.
Despite all I have said, adult life is not just about running and getting tired. It is a process in which we build an identity on the ground we gained in childhood and adolescence - and we grow old and die with this identity until our last breath. People actually step into adult life with their first big break. We are experiencing the loss of many of our elders, including early losses due to age. First, grandparents, if we had the chance to see them, siblings and lastly, parents. Unfortunately, the losses of adult life are not just deaths. We contract a chronic disease, we are betrayed by friends, we are deceived, we go bankrupt, we are expelled... We lose our faith in life, love, justice, humanity, family and all the values ​​​​we have accumulated until our adulthood. But adult life does not accept us in this broken, wounded state. Just as we separate the "rotten" ones from a bag of strawberries so that they don't spoil the others, the adult world also sorts us out. We become losers, we become unable to hold on. Adults love what is predictable. They alienate those who do not want those who can break and fall apart at any moment, those who cannot run and get tired, and those who cannot compete. But we can still continue this sometimes wild, sometimes pleasurable life without feeling resentful of our wounds or worrying about going out of the frame. We can relieve this fatigue of adult life in the genius of science and art.
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