I wanted to touch on this issue, especially because our new parents are confused about how they should communicate with their children. Additionally, many parents have communication problems with their children. At this point, it would be beneficial not to miss a few important elements, perhaps in this way, your communication with your child will progress positively with the little keys I will present to you.
First of all, it is not possible to have a single truth when raising your child, every family has its own dynamics. . However, first of all, I must remind you that remember to be a child with your child, do not lock yourself into negative behaviors. This will both help open the doors of communication with your child and prevent you from directing yourself to negative thoughts.
*Don't forget to give yourself the chance to make mistakes...
Trying to be perfect as a parent is very tiring. and it will be a difficult goal to achieve. You should remember that sometimes you may make mistakes, you may find things by trying from time to time, and even your problem-solving skills may not come into play at that point. The important thing is that you give your child unconditional love, trust and have open communication. Once these are achieved, it will be possible to move forward in a healthy way in any situation.
*Being a good parent...
If you can adapt to the needs of your child, whose basic needs you met when he was a baby, and if you can tolerate his needs less and less over time, you are a good parent. It means you are on the ground. What parents need to do is to follow their child's development. In addition, he must tolerate the possibility that his child may make mistakes. Because the child, who is indirectly disturbed by these mistakes he made, develops an awareness of taking responsibility. Parents' display of a savior attitude at every point may slow down the child's ability to become responsible.
*Setting limits...
Parents should set limits while raising their children. However, setting limits does not mean applying harsh discipline. Children who grow up with correct limits set from a young age act knowing their limits and the rules required by that environment.
When setting boundaries, they are very harsh and childish. Care should be taken to ensure that it does not block the air. Because within harsh and restrictive limits, the child's motivation for life decreases and his creative side does not develop, which negatively affects his adulthood.
When setting limits, you must always be clear with your child and consistent in what you say. At the same time, when setting boundaries, you need to talk about this clearly with your child and face to face. The most important thing is that you have to be patient, because there will be no immediate change. Another point is to clearly explain your child's gains and losses. In other words, it is necessary to express and behaviorally show the benefits that will motivate him when he abides by the limits, and the harms when he does not comply.
*Avoid general questions
Most parents complain about their children not sharing. However, the real situation is not that their children do not share, but that families do not know how to ask questions to their children.
Parents who want to communicate well with their children ask, 'What did you do at school today?' Instead of asking general questions such as; 'Has there been anything that made you laugh so hard today?' or 'What made you angry today?' should prefer more specific questions such as.
On the other hand, you should not just expect sharing from your child, you should also share things about yourself and contribute to your child's development of the behavior of asking you questions.
*The most important key is : Not forgetting to be a child with your child!
Due to the intense responsibilities and burdens that living conditions and difficulties impose on families, most families forget to be children, to enjoy life, to spare time for themselves, and to be flexible. With the burdens of adulthood, they can try to control everything and apply this to children as well.
In this context, in order to be good parents and communicate with your child; You should not forget to be a child with your child. Have fun with him, be his age, show flexible behavior. As you apply these, you will see that your communication progresses and you make progress in your relationship.
Communicate a lot with your children. Because the correct communication you establish with your child is very important for his social, academic and emotional development. It is important. Remember that every right step you take for him now affects his life in the future.
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