We start the sessions by greeting each other. In front of me are two adults. Sometimes angry, sometimes hopeless, sometimes tired...
None of the three people in the room knows where the road will take us. They often express the purpose of being in the therapy room as "I want to bring my marriage to a better point."
The smallest expectation and the biggest wish are often 'hope'.
These two people Of course, they started their marriage journey with hope. Their wish is to be a family, a satisfying union that will last for many years... After the breakdowns begin, everyone comes with the luggage they carry from their own family and their own past.
As Gülcan Özer mentioned in her book 'Everyone is the Hero of Their Own Life'; Suitcases are opened, everyone takes out their own suitcases as needed.
'I saw this in my family, I will never allow this in my own family' or 'this was like this in my family and this is the right thing'. All these sometimes overlap, sometimes conflict. What is good and beautiful is knowing that this new nuclear family is unique and unique. Not copying families, finding your own beautiful and special way.
Family Counselor, Family Therapist What kind of a path does it follow?
As therapists, we already leave our own experiences aside. , our own truths. Now science and expertise speak, theories that have been developed over the years, and methods and techniques that will shed light on the family begin to be applied. (This is my hope, if you are at the right address)
Family therapy involves reorganizing family relationships, discovering and strengthening lost emotional bonds, the most basic issue is communication throughout all processes. Even if the problems cannot be solved, they can only continue with good communication. Solving problems with good communication, resolving differences, and talking about good sexuality are always handled step by step.
How long does family therapy take?
If I were to say, 'Come every day for 10 days, everything will be fine', that wouldn't be realistic at all. Change does not happen overnight. The family therapist accompanies you for weeks and even months. While working on the relationship, life goes by and approaching new problems, seeing change, and increasing awareness are only possible in life.
You can follow the program I follow. I explain it to him in the first session and we continue if we mutually deem it appropriate. We follow a process that continues with homework until the 5th session, and the 5th session is the evaluation session. I share my observations with the family evaluation scale, you evaluate the process and if we decide to continue, we continue working for 5 or 7 sessions. In summary, I accompany you in your life for about 10-12 sessions in total, and after our work is completed, you continue on your way as couples who can solve their own problems, have good communication, know the pleasure of spending time with each other and respect each other's individuality.
In summary, during the family therapy process, it is essential to hope, believe in change, strengthen communication and be willing to do all this.
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