School means the end of six years of comfort, dependency and freedom. School means long periods of time away from parents and dealing with the social environment and authority alone.
There is no parent to help with every problem anymore. While trying to solve his problems with his annoying friend, he no longer has the trust of his parents' existence. In other words, he gradually learns to fend for himself.
When I see children crying, having adaptation problems, or having problems coping with these problems, I try to empathize and draw the above conclusions. As far as I have encountered and observed in my job, children do not only face these problems when they start school. The way some families approach their children experiencing these problems makes the situation even more unbearable. So, how should we behave when the child starts school?
The child starts to take new responsibilities. That's why you should give time to make adaptation to school easier. At this point you should know your child well. How long will it take for him to get used to new situations? “or “What can you do to facilitate compliance?” If you can answer these questions, your job is easier.
You can be more soft and permissive in the process. Morning wake-ups may not be like those of an adult. This may take a long time. In such times, the problem is generally not the difficulty of getting up in the morning, but the bedtime in the evening. Or it would be wrong to expect adult performance when remembering or doing homework. Especially homework is an issue that wears out parent and child relationships. Homework is one of the fields that is flexible but has limits. How the homework is done is important. Homework should not be made to be done despite everything. Homework is the child's responsibility. Parents act as if homework was given to them. Of course, homework also needs to be finished. Nerves tense near bedtime can ruin relationships. Making the child do his homework to distract him may also negatively affect his perception of the lesson.
If the child makes his wishes before what he has to do, what he has to do may be disrupted. Teaching this order to the child at a young age will be easier and more permanent. He can do whatever he wants after the homework is done. Or of course he can go out after the room is tidied up. Or if he is going to read, he may ask for a phone call afterwards. ibi.
Showing patience, empathy and thinking rationally strengthens the relationship between you and your child and improves your communication.
Keep in mind that children will always want to do actions they enjoy and this is very natural. So don't expect adult patience or sense of responsibility.
Finally, you can raise the child to be successful in studies and get very good grades. But in this case, you have to compromise on important things like unconditional love, self-confidence or a positive perception of the world. That's why we must raise children who are successful not only in academics but also in all areas of life.
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