Love brings with it feelings such as closeness, attachment, trust, respect and love.
Attachment styles, the foundations of which are laid in people's relationships with their caregivers (parents, caregivers) in their childhood and even in infancy, also affect their romantic relationships in later ages. It becomes decisive.
Secure Attachment Style: I can easily establish rapport with my lover. I can easily connect to him and he can connect to me. I don't worry about being abandoned or about someone else getting too close to me.
Individuals with this type of attachment style state that they can easily establish close relationships and that their relationships are satisfying.
Adults from this group experience very few problems in their relationships. and their relationships are usually long-lasting.
It has been observed that adults with a secure attachment style are happier in their romantic relationships, feel more secure and supportive of the people they are with, despite their mistakes.
Avoidant Attachment Style: I cannot easily establish closeness with others and have difficulties in connecting. I get angry when my lover is too close to me. I think he wants to be more close to me than I want.
These people do not want to be close.
These individuals are cold and distant towards the people they are with.
In their relationships. They are jealous and often experience emotional ups and downs. I usually think that my lover does not really love me or does not want to be with me.
These people pointed out that they are worried that the people they are with in their romantic relationships will abandon them.
It has been observed that adults who are attached to their spouses in this way are jealous in their relationships, attach great importance to sexuality, and experience frequent emotional ups and downs in their relationships.
Finally, these individuals are worried that they will be rejected by their spouses.
It is seen that people with a secure attachment style are happy with people who have a secure attachment like themselves. Anxious-decision On the other hand, people who are weak tend to form relationships with avoidant individuals who will prove these expectations true because they always have the expectation in their minds that they will be abandoned and will not receive attention, even though they complain. Anxious-avoidant people can be made happy by making their self-perceptions positive by establishing romantic relationships with people who have a secure attachment model. Anxious people also choose anxious-indecisive people who will show excessive interest in them, even though they avoid closeness. It is clear that anxious people can also have happier love relationships with people who have a secure attachment style.
In summary, we can say that when choosing a partner, consider candidates with a secure attachment style and be happy.
So what is your attachment style and partner choice?
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