When we start to start a family, we more or less predict what kind of family picture we will have with the person we are planning to marry. There is one or more children in this family. Often the importance of raising children in a healthy way; It pushes you to share your life with one person..
When the plan is like this from the beginning, when things don't go well, we first think about the child issue. What will happen to my child?
How much will he or she be affected by this situation?,
Will I hurt him?,
He is not to blame for this situation, but he is more It will be difficult..
Possibilities and questions keep running through your mind.
Of course, there can be different purposes of establishing a marriage. However, if we eventually divorce, the issue of children will be the most fundamental problem. As a result, parents who are educated on this subject may have received support to manage the process more professionally. Maybe they know what the process should not have harmful consequences for the child.
However, it is important to explain the concept of divorce at this point. The purpose of this article is to emphasize the vital bends that the child's mental health will experience in case of divorce.
It can be said that the situation of the father for a girl and the situation of the mother for a boy is important, but in fact, it is not that important.. The most important thing is the mother. Because there is an organic bond with the child. The father represents one of the parents. Although there is no organic bond, the father creates another emotional bond, the physical side of the child. It is complementary.
Although divorce has a subject, parents know this well: the child should not know why. Of course, the age of the child is important here.. Shouldn't he know the reason at any age?
For example, shouldn't a 10-year-old child know the reason for divorce?
There is no single answer to this question. If it's a divorce because of the obvious fault of one of the parents, that should remain a secret.
Yes, she shouldn't know.
But kids this age or older aren't really far from the cause. Sometimes they research, ask, listen and somehow they can learn. You have proof that they learned it If there is, it would be right not to hide and open the subject anymore. It will be healthier to talk to each other by expressing what is in it now. You can go more with his questions. Or definitions suitable for his age can be made. However, one of the parents should talk about this situation. Talking to someone outside the family may mislead the child.
Basically, the aim is; To ensure that the child is in a neutral relationship with both parents.
Destructive emotions, anger, hatred, sadness, etc., can be a burden on the child. >Unfortunately, this article will not be able to touch on dozens of different points to be opened on this subject..
Perhaps the following questions should also be answered,
How to explain this situation to the child before leaving?
How to explain this situation to the child when leaving?
How to manage the situation so that the child is not burdened with an emotional burden when the father is clearly guilty or the mother is openly guilty?
The relationship style of a mother who feels guilty towards her child after separation how should it actually be?
If the child is with the mother and the father sees that it is seasonal, how should they create the concept of meeting?
If the child is with the mother and the father cannot come, how should he come, how should he manage if he does not?
If the child is with the mother, what should be the relationship of the other people staying at home with the child, their attitudes when the issue of divorce is brought up, and their ideas about the father?
We can of course draw more scenarios..
The answers to these questions are of course there is. In fact, they also have specialized answers that evolve according to every child, every mother, every father. To say that there is only one answer would be like saying that people are only one type.
However, we are content with this in this article. Is divorce difficult for a child, yes it is. But when it is not managed well..
When it is managed well, children do not worry, they also train their adaptation skills in this regard and they can actually manage to overcome it..
Attention!
Did I ever tell you why? You're getting divorced, don't get divorced, or if it doesn't happen, get divorced..
I didn't say it. Because this part of the job is not our job.
Stay healthy..
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