I would like to touch upon a few issues that I consider important about marriage and relationship problems.
Research conducted in various countries has shown that the closer the couples' homes are to their parents' homes, the higher the divorce rates. (Swiss scientists say it, not me!)
So...
This means that we are unable to leave our own families and start a new family. In other words, the more we are confused, the more confused we become.
Therefore, decide only for yourself on the place you will live, the house you will keep there, the items you will put in that house and all other matters.
Families?
They are a little upset at first, but as they see your determination; They get used to you being a new and separate family. Even minor resentments will pass in a short time.
Two halves of the apple
Before getting married, we must make sure that we know and understand each other well enough. We should not have the mentality of "we will handle some things later" or "we will get used to it over time". Even if we are sure that we know each other well enough, we should not forget that marriage is a new ground for both parties and some of our behaviors may differ on this new ground.
We should not try to reach the truth from the mistakes of others. For example, we should not say, "My father or so-and-so we know was a bad husband, I should do the opposite." We can only learn from a mistake that it is wrong, we may not always find the right thing by doing the opposite.
Instead, the one we think is doing the right thing. We can take someone as an example. But the most important thing is that we reach our own truths by correcting our mistakes with sufficient communication and patience.
We should not approach marriage as becoming the same, and therefore we should not be obliged to do every activity together or share phone and social media passwords.
So "instead of trying to be two halves of an apple, we should try to be mixed fruit juice. It gives the taste of both and is different from both...
The person who loves gets jealous
Marriage or a long-term relationship There are undoubtedly many difficulties in living. No matter what we do, it can be overwhelming and boring at times. Few of these A few suggestions to prevent or reduce the damage:
Be interested in each other's interests, for example. You may not be interested in football, but know that the colors of your spouse's favorite team are "yellow and dark blue", its president is "Ali Koç" and its situation is not very bright. For example, your spouse asks, "Do these shoes match my outfit?" When you ask; Don't say "how do I know?", say "it didn't happen", but be sure to give your opinion.
Designate a certain part of the day just for the two of you (not with one eye on your phone) Spend time outside together from time to time.
Instead of trying to bring all your old friends together, choose the ones you both adopt and spend time with others separately.
Jealousy is one of the riskiest points in a relationship. Rather than relying on the saying "The person who loves gets jealous"; It would be more accurate to think that this often indicates significant psychiatric distress. IF A PERSON WHO LOVES CONFIDENT IN HIS LOVE AND HIMSELF, THERE WILL BE NO NEED TO TRUST ANYONE ELSE.
Sexuality
Sexuality is an important component of the relationship. It is undoubtedly important to get information from the right sources. "The mistakes we know to be true" are one of the biggest obstacles to a healthy sexual life.
But sexuality develops with more experience and experience. Just like cooking. As your experience increases, you will see that your skill and pleasure in sexuality will increase as your experience increases, just as the taste and appearance of your meals will improve. As long as the parties can clearly communicate their likes and dislikes to each other.
Last word (for now):
Problems related to both your sexual life and your marriage/partnership; Consulting an expert before it gets bigger and more complicated with information pollution will help you move forward more easily.
Take care of yourself and your relationship.
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