It means that the parents overprotect the child and control and take care of the child more than necessary. As a result, the child may become an individual who is overly dependent on the people around him and lacks self-confidence. This addiction, which can occur throughout the child's life, negatively affects psycho-social maturity and does not allow the child to become self-sufficient. Overprotectiveness of parents also affects the child's school success and adaptation to school.
As a result of the research, it is seen that mothers are more protective than fathers. Reasons that cause mothers to develop a protective attitude towards their children:
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The death of the mother's first child, many miscarriages, a difficult pregnancy, a dystocia or having a child as a result of a long treatment. having a mother and not having the chance to have another child
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The mother's husband has little involvement in her married life and she cannot find the attention and love she expects
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Growing up in a mother's own childhood environment devoid of love and affection
Over-protected children become very dependent and tend to demand everything from their mothers, unable to make decisions on their own, without asking or consulting. They become individuals who cannot do anything and lack entrepreneurial skills. Since they cannot develop their own manual skills, they become clumsy and therefore insecure. They may be individuals who get what they want by crying or are extremely stubborn. Because they cannot learn to protect themselves, they develop a vulnerable, timid identity, or they may be overly authoritarian, spoiled, and exploitative of those around them.
If; If you prevent your child's movements to protect him from possible physical harm, if you get up four or five times a night to cover your preschool-age child, if you allow your child to sleep together in your bed even though he has a separate bed, if you never allow your preschool or primary school-age child to leave your side, if you regularly If you do your child's homework or do not give your child any housework responsibilities, you may be showing an excessive attitude towards protecting your child.
Overprotection. It also hinders relationships between men and women. In a child-focused life, parents cannot take care of their own needs in a healthy way. Overprotection does not develop the child's personality, it causes the child to become a dependent, timid, stubborn individual who gets what he wants, and this overprotection prevents the child from developing life opportunities such as autonomous thinking and taking responsibility.
As parents, the child has the opportunity for a natural life. We must give. We must guide our children by setting a good example and provide them with the necessary opportunities to live a healthy, happy life on their own.
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