The human baby is the one in need of help the most among animals. The baby is born dependent on the mother. The mother provides her nutrition, sleep, security and everything she needs. This is natural for a while. As time passes, the baby should wean from the breast, get off the mother's lap and start crawling, go to the toilet, and be able to stay alone and sleep for a short time when necessary. The child must accept the separation from mother and father not only behaviorally but also emotionally.
With the bond created by the placenta, the baby cannot even perceive that he and his mother are different people for a long time. For him, the universe is one thing. The balanced relaxation of this strong bond determines our self-confidence and attitude towards the world in the later years of our lives.
Some attitudes we show to the child make him feel insecure. The child who feels insecure clings to his mother as the closest safe haven. This attachment is not only to meet their needs, it means that the child, who thinks that he cannot cope with anything on his own, unrealistically escapes from the world in front of him. This insecurity can be seen in families that do not allow the child to carry out even the responsibilities that he can handle. Constantly controlling the child, interfering with his actions, and giving unnecessary advice will not only cause the child not to be able to rehearse his own abilities and recognize himself, but will also cause problems in making sense of life. The reason for this type of behavior may also be the mother's addiction to the child. Parents who see him as a part of themselves and want to shape and possess him as he wishes, show extreme protective behavior. An anxious approach to the child's future may cause you to exhibit behaviors that will create gaps in his or her character. These types of children may develop a phobia against kindergarten and school and cannot adapt to these environments for a long time. This is a bad start for their cognitive abilities and social world.
This balanced relaxation and detachment may not work well for every child. We must encourage him to be free. By highlighting his abilities, talents and strengths, we should teach him the weapons he will use when his mother and father are not with him. trace. We should not withhold our support or ignore the things he cannot do. Criticisms and comparisons greatly damage his self-confidence. Even when he/she imitates a job that an adult can do, belittling him/her says, "You're just a child." Saying so will only make him feel bad. Children at that age ask questions that may seem ridiculous to us. These questions contain the first information he will use to make sense of life. Therefore, we must give correct answers to every question he asks. We should try to create environments where he can establish relationships with people, animals and nature, and to support him as a role model when he first enters these types of social interactions. These suggestions will ensure that your child has high self-confidence and does not live dependent on an authority figure in his life.
In order to encourage our child to open up to the outside world, a ground must first be created where he/she feels emotionally safe. You should kiss, hug and sometimes sleep with your child. You should express your love. You should spend time together and show him that you will always support him in any problems he may encounter. Besides all this, you should gradually encourage and accustom him to spending time on his own.
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