Nowadays, our parents and students can follow all kinds of information, from absenteeism to exam dates, from scores to announcements, electronically, from smartphones, tablets or computers, through the e-school parent information system. Before e-school, excitement would peak for both students and parents on report card day, and indescribable joys and sorrows would be experienced on the last Friday of the semester. These days are now in the past. As soon as the grade is entered into the system, it can be learned instantly via SMS from the 8383 information system or from the parent information system on the computer. Therefore, the excitement experienced on report card day is now a thing of the past.
After the report card should be considered and evaluated as an opportunity to set new goals, not to ask for an account. If students are faced with a bad report card, some precautions need to be taken to prevent this situation from having a traumatic effect. To avoid a possible report card syndrome, parents need to pay more attention to their children. This should be seen as an opportunity to communicate. If the report card is bad, the resulting report card syndrome not only causes fear in the child, but can also cause many troubles.
Encountering parents with a report card that does not meet their expectations may cause peace in the family. Therefore, parents should pay close attention to their children throughout the semester to avoid any bad report card surprises. Students' fear of bad grades and report cards may cause some problems in the communication between parents and children within the family. A child is much more valuable than his grades. Families should establish a healthy bond of trust with their children. When such a bond of trust is established, the child will not feel the need to hide it from his parents when his report card is bad. He will be able to talk comfortably with his mother and father about his problems. Punishing or threatening the child when an unwanted report card arrives is not the right way to behave. It is necessary to consider the unwanted report card as a signal. If you evaluate this signal correctly, your next educational experience will have a more positive course. This applies to both students and parents. Parents who are faced with an unwanted report card must look for a satisfactory answer to the following question: property: “How much did I care for my child?”
What is the solution to increase success?
A bad report card is not the end of life. This may be the beginning of a lifestyle that can be even more successful in the future, with children and family acting together. Report cards allow the student and their parents to see their shortcomings. Modern life is a time when parents have very high expectations of success on their children. Over time, this expectation of the family ingrains feelings in the child that cause anxiety and subsequently failure. The performance of children with anxiety naturally decreases. Anxiety, especially test anxiety, negatively affects the child's success. Anxiety about how to explain this situation to their parents if they get bad grades is one of the main reasons why children fail in classes. Children should not be approached with the thought "I will only love you if you are successful or if you bring a good report", they should state that they love children unconditionally. The most important thing is that if they are given the feeling that their children are valuable to them, regardless of whether they are successful or unsuccessful, anxiety will disappear. The image of society that I will buy you this or reward you if you bring a good report card should not be projected. Success should definitely be rewarded, but it should not be said that if you bring a good report card, I will buy you this or I will send you on vacation.
Among the reasons for failure; There are many problems such as problems within the family, the child not having his own study room, his circle of friends, problems between the teacher and the student, attention deficit, learning difficulties and depression. In the face of bad grades, the student may exhibit some negative behaviors and move away from family and school due to confusion, fear and anxiety. The responsibility for a weak report card should not be placed solely on the student.
How should one behave?
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Parents should check their reactions to their child's report card. p>
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The level of success can be increased by developing various methods with the school counselor or an expert.
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Listen, treat him/her as an individual and do not underestimate the problems he/she is experiencing. .
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Do not compare your report card with the grades of children from other families. This situation offends the child and causes him/her to move away from the family and school.
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Do not exhibit oppressive behavior. For example, avoid sentences such as “Study your lessons, otherwise I will take you out of school”, “Don't come home with a bad report card again”. Such sentences do not increase the child's success in classes, on the contrary, they cause him to become depressed.
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Discover his talents and guide your child in line with these talents.
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Develop encouraging activities for his bad lessons.
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Instead of pointing out his failure, show him that you believe in him. Convince him that he will be successful.
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