While picking up my daughter from volleyball practice, I noticed something for a while. Fathers and mothers waiting for their children are waiting so seriously and solemnly that I cannot explain. The kid leaves training, not a word, or a word or two to the tune of "limited liability building society"... let's go to the car and then home. Well, of course, the kid is doing a serious job, dear..!! They also act in accordance with this seriousness.
The same parents are the fathers who will go to work on Monday. Don't worry because they will remain serious when they go to work. The face is as sullen as possible, serious, speaking little...etc etc.
“How do you know, Mr. Levent? Maybe the man works alone, or he doesn't have a team or something.” And don't talk, my dear...!!
There is an old song by Mazhar Alanson, whose voice I admire. He says, "... you don't know me, I love you but I won't tell you...".
Have the parents also listened to this song or what....
Remember, all the way back to primary school, what your teacher would underline with a red pen. Do you remember... the things you did wrong were drawn with a red pen? What about the things you do that are beautiful and right? “They used to draw them with a green pencil too” ... unfortunately there is no such thing. Nobody underlined, crossed out or underlined any of the lines.
This mentality did not stay in the school desks, it grew up with us and followed us.
We followed our child, and when he made a mistake, we said "oh no! ..." we said, we got angry, we warned. When he did well, we either did not call him an individual or we said a little well done. But be sure that the number of "well done"s was less than the number of "good"s.
There was little communication with the children. Or they took the wrong path. “Well, dear, we sent them to Europe last summer...”, “We bought whatever they wanted”, “Well, I don't always buy anything for myself, I always buy things for the kids”......do the sentences sound familiar from somewhere?
Of course If you can do these, do them. In addition, encourage, encourage, appreciate your child, and in short, show that you value him/her, so that the approach you make is a full approach.
If your child leaves childhood and goes through adolescence, adulthood and maturation respectively, as a mother or father, , your friend, confidant If you want him to be your friend, the first thing you should do and show is;
Love him and tell him you love him, show that you appreciate and value him.
Mazhar Alanson's is just a beautiful song. Listen, but don't take it as a life lesson. And not at all…!
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