Compared to the previous period, the acceleration of life and living conditions and the increase in the number of tasks done during the day have also affected human relations. Generations that listen less, make less eye contact and are less patient are growing up in this period. In other words, the acceleration of time also affected human behavior in this period. Therefore, the time that individuals spend on each other has decreased compared to the past, and in parallel, the time that parents spend on their children has also decreased.
In the light of this data, it is actually easier for parents to have children behave like adults, because they do not have enough time in the development process of children. When he gets upset, he forgets that children are children and treats them like adults.
To give an example, after an event that is difficult for children and that is difficult for them, parents should give enough support to their children, but what they say to children is sentences such as: "Son, you are grown up now, don't cry" or "Babies cry, wipe your tears". We see. They implicitly place the theme that crying is a weakness in children, because in order for children to grow up, they should not cry and act like adults. Or sentences like "When I was your age... I did this..." instead of supporting children, they increase the pressure on them and children constantly compare themselves. However, all they wanted was to be understood in parallel with what their age brings, and if we do not forget that the process we call childhood is the process of getting to know the environment, we are leaving a burden that they may not be able to bear with the responsibilities we give them.
This process is especially supported by the fact that we are in the information age. Since children are not mature enough to understand and criticize the behavior of adults, they imitate behavior far beyond their age. The fact that our children see many adult role models on screen contributes to this process. Girls start wearing make-up, wearing high heels, talking like adults, and boys start watching violent TV series and movies that their fathers watch and taking the actors in them as models. Y A child who cannot experience the psychological processes required by vaccination in time becomes an adult without experiencing his childhood. If this situation continues, the possibility of personality disorders in individuals increases in the future.
As a result, let's not forget that our children are not yet as mature as we are and they are naturally trying to experience what their age brings. We should support them when necessary and give them the opportunity to behave in accordance with their age. Let children's personality development be based on solid foundations.
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