Don't let your father hear it! Don't let your father know! What will your father say if he hears about it? Don't you know your father, he will erase you! Don't offend your father, he will erase us all!... Is there any child who hasn't heard the derivatives of his sentences? So, are our mothers, sisters, brothers, neighbor Aunt Gül, family friend Mahmut brother doing the right thing? The absolute best is for someone to catch them and tell them to stop. I can't get angry! What did our ancestors say, "The goat that climbs the tree becomes the kid that looks at the branch?" In other words, human beings emulate whatever they see from their parents and put it into practice.
Be careful not to hear it from your father. I think there is a "Father" figure that has not changed in this land and society for centuries. Because the father brings bread to the house and is responsible. While the concept of evolution is passing through the generations and the economic order is changing accordingly, in this country the father always sees himself as the sole responsible for the physical needs and material future of the family. According to the father, he is the pillar of the house, the burden is on his shoulders. Good, family members are well fed! What about children's emotional needs? The father sits on the sofa, leans back, takes the TV remote control and is not responsible for the emotional needs of the children. Because there is a cause and effect relationship in the father's mind. If physical needs are met, emotional needs are also met. Because he only saw technical subjects from his own father and only technical subjects were included in practice.
Your father's, our grandfather's and their grandfather's generation managed to get through the trouble called life without taking a bottle. Naturally, it was not in the father's genetic code to take care of children. In a research conducted by AÇEV, fathers; 50% stated that they never took their child to the toilet, 36% stated that they never changed their child's diaper, and 35% stated that they never cut their child's nails. It would not be wrong to make the following comment based on these data. Today's fathers take the bottle, change his diaper, take him to the toilet, cut his nails... But he is inexperienced and his hands shake! Because the lack of genetic transmission from the previous generation causes an allergic reaction in your body.
Of course, the Father is also an authority figure. The challenging part of fatherhood is control and discipline. Actually this I regret to say that it is the mothers who made this happen! The mother, who is face to face with the child all day, needs a bogeyman when things get out of hand. In situations where he does not want to take the initiative, he puts the scare of "FATHERSHIP" on the child's nose in order to cover up his ignorance and inexperience. Because she knows! If the person stands directly in front of the child, the partnership will be broken. Thus, while the mother and the child become a team, the father remains outside despite all his "RESPECTFULNESS". While the bonds between the caring and devoted Mothers and their children have been strengthened over the years, the Father is inside, unaware of everything, watching his TV, sipping his coffee, reading his newspaper... He does not know what is going on at home, nor does he want to know. When it comes to the order of the house and family, it is up to the mother! The rules are made even by the Father from a distance. By intermediating the mother. Messages such as "Tell her not to do that, not to wear that way" etc. are the words of the Father that many of us, both boys and girls, hear from the mother's voice. Mothers would give very intense education to their beloved children. The father would become more popular day by day. What about for the child? It would become difficult or even impossible to hold the hand of this giant who is moving further away and say “DAD I LOVE YOU”.
The right thing is for Fathers to speak with their own voices, not through Mothers. Mothers now rebel against this order and say stop. Children should call their fathers "daddy" with joy and chirping, and their hearts should be filled with joy... I hope that all of us, all of you, have arms that are too long to carry the children, who are alive, real, whose arms are warm, dear, compassionate, whose hands are soft even though they are full of calluses bearing the traces of life, and whose eyes are full of love. and you have fathers and fathers who look with understanding. Even if your fathers are of a different type, I hope you will be such fathers, the father of your child or your spouses will be a truly father.
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