I couldn't be a child at first because my father needed help with his work. I was only eleven years old when I put on my overalls and entered the carpentry shop. My mother was always sick and had headaches. I don't know what my brothers and sister were doing at that time or why I was chosen, but I remember that I had difficulty in working physically. Then I couldn't be a young girl because my father entrusted my mother and others to me when he took his last breath. That's why I couldn't go to university. Then I got married, but I could not become a woman. I had a wife who did not like to work and take responsibility. I worked and struggled for the future of our home and our son. I didn't know how much my wife cared and loved me, but after all, I loved her instead. When I finally became a mother, I thought I would become a woman, but I couldn't. I worked extra jobs for my son. I would definitely make him read it. I did my best to make him comfortable when he went to college. I cleaned his house and cooked meals every weekend. Then one day he said, "Mom, I'm getting married." I had a wedding by going into a lot of debt even though I didn't want to. When I couldn't get the respect I deserved from my son and daughter-in-law after everything I had done, I suffered from a condition called "depression". I no longer enjoyed life and didn't want to eat anything. I couldn't sleep at night and felt like my whole body ached. I lost twenty-five kilos in a short time. I had many friends around me, my wife, my friend... When I realized that they could not help me overcome my anger, I consulted a psychiatrist with the support of one of them. When the treatment process started, I was hopeless, but when I finally realized that I had not done anything for myself and ignored my wishes all these years, everything changed. That's when I "became a woman"...
Sacrifice is a part of our lives, and we know that it will contribute positively to the regulation of interpersonal relationships if the individual does not sacrifice himself excessively. However, we see that the consequences of excessive self-sacrifice are not very positive for the individual who sacrifices himself. Here, the individual sacrifices himself and ignores his own needs in order to meet the needs of others. He prefers to listen to the problems of others rather than talking about the problems he has. He tries to compensate for the so-called deprivations of others with his excessive sense of responsibility. exceed In extreme self-sacrifice, a person does so with his/her own volition. He believes that others need protection, and he pays excessive attention to them and does his best to prevent them from getting into difficult situations. While doing this, he may appear as if his own needs are not important and even as if he does not expect anything from those to whom he sacrifices himself, but when he does not receive a response, he may experience intense anger. One of the reasons for this is that people who sacrifice themselves are emotionally deprived. As they sacrifice, they see many friends and relatives gathering around them, while at the same time they feel disturbed by how their emotional needs are ignored. So much so that, as a result of this discomfort, they may want to stop making sacrifices and punish the other person. Over time, people who are extremely self-sacrificing develop some symptoms of mental and physical discomfort. Fatigue, body aches, sleep problems, and depressive complaints are symptoms that may occur in these people. When we realize that excessive sacrifice has such negative consequences, how can we control it? First of all, realize that your own needs are as important as the needs of other people around you. Think about what you've literally done for yourself throughout your life. Reconsider your belief in the deprivations of others. I wonder how much they need your care and help? Could you be taking too much responsibility in some matters? Remember that excessive self-sacrifice will harm your health, your needs, and your relationships with other people. Don't be one of those who say goodbye while sacrificing...
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