There is no need to go far, about ten years ago it was news from social media that most parents were far from using computers. Social media networks, which are generally used by young people, are now available even to grandparents. Instead of visiting our elders during holidays, we send each other photos of ourselves. There is a word called selfie in our dictionary now. Times are changing, time is flowing so fast that it confuses our memory. For us psychologists, new generation diseases and new generation diagnosis reasons are emerging.
Depression is a feeling in which a person feels sad, empty, lonely and helpless; He generally looks tired and exhausted; he gains or loses weight in the process; his sleep time increases or, on the contrary, decreases considerably; It is a process in which a person has no expectations from life. Nine out of ten people have experienced this emotional state at least once in their lives, but experiencing this emotional state alone is not enough to suffer from depression. It is also very important how long the person goes through this process.
The perception created by social media deeply affects the person's perspective on the world. The biggest proof of this is teenagers. We turn into insatiable and dissatisfied people. Envy gives way to jealousy. Instead of appreciating what we have, we continue our lives dreaming of what we don't have. Our happiness lasts until the moment we pick up our phone. We take our phone in hand and look at our neighbor on vacation, our cousin who is organizing a birthday for his child, or our friend who is having a romantic dinner with his wife. If our day is unhappy, we add to our malaise: We never put that phone down.
It becomes difficult for us to discipline our children. When our daughter sees a girl her own age wearing red lipstick, she brings chaos in the house, goes crazy with anger, becomes envious, learns jealousy at a young age, feels incomplete and even lacks self-confidence. We cannot give the upbringing we want to give, so we fulfill his wishes so that he does not feel inadequate. Because we know what we are doing is wrong, we question our motherhood and feel inadequate.
Everyone travels, everyone shops, everyone spends money. We think it is. We wonder if the economy is the only one affecting us. We always think of money and stamps; We think this is the way to happiness.
We work all day, we dream of going home in the evening, curling up on the couch, maybe chatting with our spouse for a while. We enter the house, pick up the phone and suddenly realize that our spouse does not love us. We envy the hair of the woman who smiles at you with big roses, we envy her face, we think that if I look like this woman, my husband will love me more. We head to the hairdresser. We change ourselves to be loved, but we put chatting with our spouse on the back burner.
We also forget that the world we see is fake.
Who is the spouse? Posts his fight with on social media? Who shares their experiences when they feel inadequate or humiliated? Or who publishes their child's report card full of weak people?
Social media, which changes our perception, distances us from ourselves. It makes us feel sad, empty, incomplete and helpless. When this feeling continues for a long time, it leads to depression. Our weight changes, our sleep patterns are disrupted, affecting our health. While this depressive mood may be short-lived, the screen we cannot put down causes the process to prolong.
I'm not saying turn off social media or not use it, but when you feel that social media is affecting you negatively and harming your thoughts, put your phone in the corner. And I mean focus on whatever is real.
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