Habits are acquired behaviors that depend on time, guidance, and especially repetition. No habit can be acquired with a one-time try. It is very important that we can inculcate good and correct habits in our children; Because once a habit is formed, it is very difficult or impossible to correct it.
The behaviors that form the basis for the acquisition of habits begin with the birth of the child and take a distinct form in the pre-school and primary school periods. The first basic effects in the acquisition of habits are the determination, order and sensitivity that the mother shows while meeting the needs of her child for nutrition, cleaning and love.
Many mothers complain that their children do not want to go to bed at a certain time. “He sits as long as we do, and then we have difficulty getting up in the morning.” Or “He gets up in the morning before everyone else and disturbs us.” The best advice for mothers who ask how to prevent such situations: They should prepare the child for bed at a certain time every evening, stay with him for a while, tell him stories or read a story, and then leave the child to sleep. With these steps, you will have taken an important step in giving your child good sleeping habits.
In addition, he/she should be kept away from playing overly active games and events that may get him/her excited close to bedtime. (For example, the father should show the new toy he brought to his child just as he is going to sleep.) etc.)
Consistency, which is essential in acquiring all habits and constitutes the source of discipline in the individual's life, also plays the most important role in acquiring good sleeping habits.
Every night, unable to withstand the child's insistence, "Come on, just this once… It is very difficult for parents who follow an attitude that delays the child from going to sleep by saying "" to help the child acquire regular sleep habits. Because the child has learned that he can break a rule, once broken, whenever he wants. For this reason, the determined attitude of the parents has a great role in gaining good sleep habits.
Bedtime is generally important for all children, especially angry, overly sensitive and emotional children. It's a very difficult time for China. He may resist going to sleep because he does not want to be alone with his problems.
The child resists going to sleep, thinking that if he sleeps, his mother will abandon him or he will be forgotten at school.
Instead of going to punishment and arguments that will spoil the relationship with the child, he/she may resist going to sleep.
Approaching in a reassuring manner are points that can be useful in setting positive behavioral examples.
WHAT CAN BE DONE TO MAKE A SLEEP HABIT
A sleep pattern is created:
A proper and regular sleep. The 'key' to creating the habit is to send the child to bed at the same time every day and develop a nightly sleep routine. It is the duty of parents to encourage the child to go to bed early. The child makes excuses not to go to bed early and conflicts occur. For this reason, a program can be prepared to gradually reduce sleep hours to the desired time. In this way, conflicts with the child about going to bed early are resolved.
An issue that should be taken into consideration in this regard is that the mother and father want the child to go to bed and continue the activities that the child likes (such as watching television) when he goes to bed. In order to get the child used to going to bed early, it may be recommended that parents go to bed early.
The sleep environment is adjusted: Sleeping habits occur in two steps. The first of these is to facilitate the child's transition from wakefulness to sleep, and the second is to signal that it is "time to sleep". For this, the child needs to learn and get used to the half-hour routine of getting ready to go to bed and sleeping. The ideal sleep environment for the child is a room with slightly dim light (almost darkness), quiet and at a comfortable temperature, and every movement of the mother while preparing for the night's sleep is peaceful and calm.
You can take a bath before sleeping: The child can be relaxed by taking a warm bath. Desires at bedtime should be reduced:
When he wakes up at night: There is no harm in taking care of the child when he calls his parents at night. The parent who goes to the child must first try to understand whether the child is really restless, and when he is sure that he is not uneasy, speak in a calm and soft voice. He needs to talk to him, make him relax and help him fall asleep on his own again. If the child is used to receiving close attention from his parents when he wakes up at night, he should be gradually weaned from this situation.
A night sleep routine should be established: Sleeping time should be a warm, peaceful and comfortable process for the child. Activities such as taking a bath, reading stories, and humming songs will help the child calm down and sleep. It is necessary to perform all these activities in the same order and with very calm and peaceful movements, and make the child feel that the night's sleep is peaceful and happy. Children love order, doing activities in the same order and knowing what comes next makes them excited and happy.
Nutrition is one of the first basic needs of the child. The child's personality is shaped before school. It is also during these years that habits that will affect the behavior of adulthood are acquired. Irregular eating habits acquired at this age affect the physical, emotional and social development of the child in other periods of his life.
In the first days of its life, the child communicates its nutritional needs to those around it. The mother's delay in responding to the child when it cries, her anger at being prevented from doing her job just when she was about to start a job, and her use of a tone of voice or behavior that indicates this, her feeding the child whenever she wants or whenever she cries, rather than on a regular schedule, and in later periods It may cause problems in the formation of positive eating habits. When the conflict with the mother increases, the three to four year old child may not want to eat, may keep it in his mouth and may vomit when forced.
Situations that make children angry and reactive during feeding hours are as follows:
a)Forcing. and Intimidation: Putting pressure on, frightening and punishing the child for not eating enough and on time, polluting the environment, eating too often or for various reasons leaves bad marks on the child.
b)Doing whatever the child wants: Showing excessive interest in the child, bowing to his wishes, and doing whatever he wants will have negative effects on the child.
c) to rush or to stall: The child should not be rushed to eat his/her meal or should be prevented from stalling unnecessarily.
d)Comparing and making jealous: Comparing with other children, for example, because he/she eats less It is wrong to say that he is thin or that his friends eat better than him, or to make him jealous.
e) Reward: Eating should not be a matter of negotiation. Although promising to buy something for the child when he eats his meal and doing whatever he wants may give positive results at first, the child will ultimately behave as he wishes and expect a reward at the end of each meal.
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