In memory of our father and grandfather Yusuf Selçuk Saka...
When I started doing research to write an article about teenage fathers, I realized that Turkish resources were quite limited. Although there are many articles that explain how parents can communicate with their children who have reached puberty, how to cope, and give advice on these issues, we know that only mothers read and try to implement the majority of them, and fathers step aside by giving this task to mothers.
Fathers who work all day and come home tired and stressed out often just sit in their corners and watch what happens, since they don't want to deal with their nerve-wrapped children at home and don't know how to communicate with them properly. In situations where intervention is required, they can only take control of the situation with anger. This normally negatively affects adolescents' relationships with their fathers.
Fathers with boys complain that they can't spend time with their children as they used to. The activities he used to do in partnership with his child may not be of interest to his son, who has now entered puberty. The boy, who used to admire his father, can now criticize himself.
Fathers with daughters may be worried that their princess daughters will change and become a young woman, and they can watch her growth with anxiety.
Studies show that positive or negative relationships with their fathers directly affect children's coping strategies and develop problem-solving skills, as well as whether they experience internal problems or not.
In 2018 In a study conducted, it was determined that the relationship between fathers and their children, rather than mothers, is effective in the emergence of depressive symptoms in girls and boys at the same rate.
Here are some tips for getting closer to fathers and adolescents. :
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Do a regular activity together: Even if you don't always spend time together (or enjoy doing the same things), you have a favorite thing in common. hobby or activity You can find iv. For example, you can go to the movies together or go to your favorite cafe and spend time together.
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Let your child be an expert: In some cases, let your child teach you something. give. For example, ask him to teach you the computer game he plays. This will increase self-confidence.
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Just be there: Research shows that even being in the same environment with adolescents causes a reduction in behavioral problems. Be in the same house. You don't even have to be in the same room.
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