The relationships in which emotional intimacy is most intense in adult life are romantic relationships. In this sense, emotional tension and conflict are mostly experienced in these relationships. The words spoken are very different from what is meant to be said, due to the reactions of our minds to the emotional break experienced in the most intense moments of the discussion. When this situation occurs, the tension is carried to many different dimensions and causes communication problems. One of the simplest methods to avoid this situation is to apply the Traffic Light Metaphor.
Red Light: It signals that you need to get away from each other. It means that you need to calm down and stay quiet for different rooms when the dose of discussion gets high. Until your healthy adult mode is activated again, looking at the event from the outside is the healthiest attitude in terms of communication. At this stage, you need to relax and find out why you are uncomfortable, what your expectations are not met, how you express it, and you need to create a space to return to yourself. Sensory and focus exercises, breathing work are some of the techniques that will help you at this stage. . If you are ready to communicate again, you can take the first step, love, to re-establish emotional intimacy. The important thing here is not to personalize the situation that the other party is not ready to communicate again. Just because you calmed down earlier doesn't mean he's right. It just means that he needs a little more Space. With the expressions of I, both sides are ready to take up and overcome the situation again. It is important to remember that you are on the same team in moments of discussion. It really doesn't matter who is right and who is wrong. Every point where we can empathize with the other party and express ourselves emotionally is a step that will lead us to a solution and closeness. Happy relationships
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