The family may be broken up through death or divorce. This is a natural life process. We experts warn that it is not appropriate for the mental health of children to deal with the old days, to look for a culprit, to continue this intense sadness in this natural life process. Life goes on. It would be beneficial to bring up the idea of a second marriage after a while. Parents are prejudiced that they do not want their children's second marriage or that they will be negatively affected psychologically by the second marriage. Some of these prejudices arise from false beliefs and some from lack of knowledge. Nowadays, due to the increase in divorces, we frequently see step marriages. This situation has clearly shown us that a good, harmonious marriage is always better than the idea of protecting the health of the child by not marrying. If the idea of reuniting with the same spouse has become clear between the spouses, the idea of a new marriage does not pose any danger to the children. It can even be relaxing. Because children want their families to come together again, they have a distinct expectation in this regard. This expectation will actually make the child both uncomfortable and unhappy if the mother and father do not have such an idea. The idea of a new marriage will relieve the child as it will eliminate the effort of what should I do and how should I behave to reconcile the parents. Problems can arise in every marriage. If it is accepted from the beginning that problems may naturally arise in a second marriage, people will be more comfortable when problems arise.
Trying to get married early only by thinking about the children is not a desirable situation. Children have difficulty loving their stepparents or establishing positive relationships with them. This is a natural situation. Because if every child has a good relationship with his step-mother, father and siblings, real parents will be born. He has done injustice to his people and considers himself as having committed a crime against them. This is at the beginning of relationships. Especially in step-step relationships, patience, understanding, tolerance and giving time should gain importance. Children also limit and force their own families and check whether they love them or not. Even though the step parent knows this situation, he/she still gets upset and may act hastily. Distant and close relatives treat the step-parent with prejudice. Recommendation from us experts; In this difficult task, both the spouse and the close circle must support the step-parent as much as possible, without prejudice, and act patiently and tolerantly.
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