Anger is a natural and universal emotional response to unfulfilled desires, undesirable outcomes, and unmet expectations. Anger can cause problems in interpersonal relationships, deterioration of productivity and functionality in working life, and important problems in physical and mental health.
The anger that we encounter easily in young people turns into anger that can manifest itself more quickly with the effect of physical change and development. The young person who cannot resist physical change and cannot interfere with this development; This frustration can manifest in different situations. When we look at the anger that arises rapidly in young people, we can see that it is the expression of the emotional outbursts created by the identity confusion they experience. In this process, they enter into mental and emotional development. Anger, which is a part of emotional development; self-acceptance emerges more with the negative reactions it receives in response to its effort to exist. What is this negative reaction against self-assertion
Rejection of the individual against the desire to express an opinion
The opposite desires such as the need to be visible or not to be seen are not fulfilled
The disapproval of leaving childhood when approaching adulthood
Adolescence is a period in which physical, emotional and social development is seen. Anger is used as a defense to deal with problems encountered during this period of development. Conflict arises because the situations in which adolescents and adults get angry are different. We can see that adults themselves go through the same period and react by forgetting that they are teenagers. Young people use anger as a defense, with the thought that they will get a reaction against any behavior they do or will do. In fact, in order to avoid the need for this defense, we observe that the empathic approach shown to young people, to feel that they and their ideas are cared for, to be accepted as a young adult, not to be perceived as a child anymore. When it comes to 'shut up', the reaction he gives as 'you have grown up and act accordingly' is among the factors that increase anger in young people. In this transition period called adolescence, the search for identity is made more difficult by adults instead of being facilitated. By supporting the indecisive nature of young people who are still trying to distinguish whether they are children or adults, who avoid the responsibility while trying to take responsibility, who prefer to stay in the background while trying to stand out, instead of understanding, we are hindered by seeing them as both children and adults.
nobody understands me! (Parman, 2020)
This period is one of the milestones in an individual's life. In this process, the individual will redefine his relationship with his family and will need communication bridges. Even if he rebels, he needs to see a solid, consistent, inclusive caregiver by his side. Young people act by thinking that what they want to do will always be opposed. That's why they are always ready to react and use anger as a shield. The physiological development characteristics they experience also affect their emotions, experience internal conflicts and try to put them in order, while external-oriented conflicts make young people easily angered. In fact, in this period, not only anger, but also all other emotions that make a person human are experienced intensely. Joy, sadness, hatred are all in line. All of these high emotions should be seen, only the awareness of anger, its visibility encourages young people to use anger more. Apart from their demands, they believe that they should be called 'adolescents' and shown understanding. Failure to fulfill their beliefs is also reflected in their anger.
Also, the change in biological structure may have a different effect on psychology. Some become introverted, some become irritable, and some can keep themselves in check. They always want to fulfill their own wishes because they see themselves as adults because their personalities have not yet settled. Approaches events with emotions, emotions outweigh. He wants to be cared for like an adult, to be taken into consideration, to be consulted for his ideas. There is a desire to be free such that no one should interfere with what I do and why I do what I do, I can do it myself. Since the desire to read what he knows is dominant, the conflicts in the family for this reason will always throw him out. They will want to be closer to their friends and lovers because only those like them can understand them. Belonging to a group and revealing the authentic self becomes one of the main purposes of life.
This is a period in which the individual's mentality and perception of events change, and he becomes more sensitive and more fragile. Being knowledgeable about the thought and behavior patterns of individuals in adolescence, trying to understand them, being tolerant, empathizing, in short, valuing them and making them feel this will enable us to help these outbursts of anger.
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