The primary factors that shape our relationships are our experiences and shares. Whether these shares are positive or negative will be effective in advancing our relationships. Not every negative event ends relationships. Because some relationships and connections are not the result of choice. Family relationships are an example of this. When common interests are at stake, ending an existing relationship is not a desirable situation for the parties; business relationships can be given as an example. Existing relationships can be maintained by resolving past problems or by not dwelling on them and suppressing the effects of the event. However, any problem that is not resolved correctly and healthily will continue to be a threat to existing relationships.
We can all make mistakes and experience related problems in our family, friendship, romantic and business relationships. The way we resolve these problems affects the strength of the relationship. When one of the parties cannot accept a mistake made, even though it may seem like there is no problem or problem, in fact the situation cannot be solved for the person. When a situation that reminds you of past events or mistakes occurs again, events may arise again and the problem may flare up again. Bringing up past mistakes on the table again is one of the points that wears out relationships the most. The individual whose mistakes are expressed carries many negative emotions such as helplessness, sadness and anger; may decide to alienate the other party, stay away from him or her, and end the relationship. Distancing and cooling reactions are observed even in individuals who are connected by a bond such as a family bond. When this incident becomes permanent, mobbing occurs on the individual whose mistakes are expressed and may cause both psychological and behavioral problems. This will prevent individuals from establishing healthy communication. As a result, either a rupture occurs in the relationship, or even if the relationship continues, it will not be possible to talk about a healthy and constructive relationship. When we look at the reasons why individuals do not accept, we can give examples such as emotional breakdowns, being humiliated, interruption or complete disappearance of the work done. This situation could have devastating consequences for both parties.
Facing the past for healthier relationships It is the main method of solving the existing problem. In order for the negative events to not cause any problems in the future, the individual should first express how much the incident affected the other party. This will be effective in reducing the risk of the effects of the problem reoccurring in the future. Once the individual is able to analyze the impact of the problem on him/her, acceptance occurs and he/she will no longer feel the need to express past events. At the same time, it will prevent any psychological pressure from occurring on the person, as it expresses the effect of the event rather than suppressing it. Individuals' ability to handle and resolve the negative events they may experience in their interpersonal relationships right away or after they have calmed down without postponing them will strengthen existing relationships by enabling healthier communication, interaction and sharing.
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