When we look at today's successful and well-known people, I see that they basically have patience and keep trying. A business person goes bankrupt 2-3 times throughout his life, but he never gives up. He gets up again, tries a different path than before and waits for the result. Many of us refuse to even consider taking on a risky venture, let alone bankruptcy.
So, what is the difference between people who take risks and succeed and people who are afraid of starting something? How is risk perception shaped? Where does courage come from?
When we look at the lives of successful people, we see that they have a strong character who has high self-confidence, takes responsibility for the decisions they make, sees failures not as an end but as the first step of a new beginning, is a leader, is creative, and knows how to learn from their mistakes. We see and as you can imagine, some of these characteristics are related to child-rearing style and some are related to temperament structure.
Temperament structure is a lottery. It depends on what gifts we receive from people with whom we are first degree blood relatives, especially our mother and father. We can not do anything with it. However, even if the temperament is suitable, it is very difficult to obtain an individual who is successful in business life without the right upbringing or at least the right environment.
I have said many times before that life is based on trial and error. As human beings, we come with an innate sense of curiosity for the sake of survival. Curiosity brings experience, making mistakes and trying. When children reach the age of 2-3, they start asking endless questions. Because he wants to know, he wants to understand, he wants to know whether he can use this information in a useful way in the future with the information he will receive in return for the question he asks. Or sometimes he doesn't even ask questions, he tries to discover on his own. A child whose sense of discovery and curiosity is not supported or belittled feels guilty and loses his sense of curiosity. An individual who loses curiosity has no motivation to learn. It disappears, it goes away.
One of the most important factors of success is to strive tirelessly. For this reason, parents give their children a trial. needs to be given the opportunity. Without saying "I'm afraid you'll fall, you'll break me, just hold on, I'll fix it quickly." It is also important to appreciate every attempt, successful or unsuccessful. In addition, when the child tries to give up, it is among the duties of the family to encourage him to try again. This is also one of the ways to increase self-confidence, which is essential for a successful life.
Of course, not every effort may bring results. Sometimes it may be necessary to strive in different ways, sometimes to turn to a completely different path... Just as the child enjoys success, he must also learn to cope with the feeling of failure. So even if he doesn't succeed, don't do anything for him so that he doesn't get upset. Let him face that feeling. Help him succeed, but don't do it for him.
Patience is also a very important factor. Patience is the ability to wait and postpone one's wishes. It is the ability to cope with the stress caused by a situation that disturbs the person. A child whose every wish comes true instantly has no patience. Likewise, patience will not develop if the parents constantly do what the child should do.
One of the things I always say is to offer your child age-appropriate choices, let them express their thoughts and wishes and take responsibility for them. Value their opinions and choices. If you constantly make decisions instead of your child, you leave him/her nothing to think about or weigh. When a successful businessman makes a mistake, he knows that it is his own choice and takes responsibility for the consequences. In this way, he tries new ways without making the same mistakes again. However, an individual whose decision-making mechanism is not working puts the thoughts of others into practice and blames others when the results are not as desired.
But the real question is: Can parents be brave and patient enough to implement all these? This is where it ends with you. If you follow the steps above, you will be successful enough and successful in life, even if you are not temperamentally suitable. You even raise individuals to enjoy themselves.
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