We have learned in schools for years that "Family is the smallest building block of society." So, what does it mean to be a family? Family is built on important facts such as love and respect. Over time, it takes root with many factors such as sacrifice and understanding.
As we all witness, the world is now moving towards individualization. For example, in the past, doing laundry was more arduous and difficult to do alone than it is today. People would collect their laundry, go to the stream together, wash their laundry while chatting, and everyone would help each other. In other words, life's difficulties required people to act together. Now, thanks to technology, it is so easy to do our daily tasks that we do not need anyone else. I think this is one of the biggest reasons why we become lonely. We don't greet each other, we spend more time with the phones in our hands than with the people we love most.
So, how does this affect marriages?
Being a family requires being us. A significant portion of the conflicts that arise between relationships stem from our inability to be ourselves. I could no longer hear the word "we" in my clients and around me. Couples are no longer couples, they have become two separate people side by side. I'm right, you're wrong, it's flying in the air. We may not realize how much damage we can actually do to our marriage by worrying about being right. Of course, I am not saying that we should reject technology and let everyone wash their clothes in the stream to prevent this. We just need to learn to live with it and digest it.
How can we be who we are?
First of all, I think it would be beneficial to even minimize the words "I, you, I'm right, you're wrong." If there is a problem, is being right about it more valuable than my spouse being upset? More essential than damaging my relationship with him? It is necessary to answer the questions. Of course, it is also very important to know how to apologize and to please the other person.
And of course, to listen...
Everyone looks at life from their own window. Everyone's story and life is unique. Even identical twins do not have the same perspective. If we think about it from this perspective, it is not possible for you to have the same opinion on every issue with the person you are with. Just as you have your own justification for exhibiting a behavior, It is possible that the people in the country have their own reasons. This is how the ability to empathize develops.
When faced with a problem, sit down and talk, try to understand why your partner behaves that way. Him; Asking questions such as what happened, why, what did you feel, what were you thinking while doing this will help you see the event more clearly. This will bring healthier communication to your relationship and will therefore cause the other person to respect you more and behave the same way.
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