Echo, a very beautiful fairy girl, was never interested in those who fell in love with her and would never give in to anyone. One day she encountered Narcissus. Narcissus was a very handsome hunter. Ekho, who had never liked anyone until that day, fell in love with this young hunter at first sight. However, Narcissus did not reciprocate this love and walked away from the fairy girl. Echo was infatuated. He melted away day by day and died.
The gods sitting on Mount Olympus were very angry with this situation and decided to punish Narcissus. One day, Narcissus, on the hunting trail, became thirsty and exhausted and went to a riverside. When she bent down to drink water, she saw the beauty of her own face and body reflected in the water. He was fascinated by this beauty that he had not noticed before. He couldn't get up, he was in love with himself. She loved her own appearance like she had never loved anyone else before. In that way, he could neither drink water nor eat. Just like Echo, Narcissus began to melt away day by day and spent his life there just watching himself.
This story describes narcissistic personality disorder to us. People with narcissistic personality disorder think that they are special and therefore have many privileges. They want everyone around them to treat them specially. They burn with the desire to be famous, to be liked, to be recognized. They lack the ability to empathize, they do not think about anyone, but they want everyone to think about them and obey their wishes. Being criticized is one of your biggest nightmares. They respond to criticism either with a violent tantrum or with indifference, belittling the other party.
Dramatic show-offs, emotional outbursts, and wildly variable attitudes are characteristic features of narcissists. Everything he does is right. According to him, he is the only one who is envied and looked upon with envy in every environment. They aim to achieve their goals by taking advantage of others' weaknesses. Waiting their turn, asking, giving way, or helping is never for a narcissist.
Friendships or special relationships exist only because they nourish them, protect their interests, and help them achieve their goals. Friends or lovers of narcissists are often people who previously had a narcissistic mother or father. Because indifference and selfishness, which they saw in their childhood and thought of as love, are not foreign to them. Their understanding of love is shaped according to a narcissistic person. That's why, when they're with a narcissistic partner, they don't think about demanding their own rights, and they continue their relationship and allow their spouses to use them without giving anything in return.
Lying is an indispensable feature of the narcissistic attitude. All the information he gives about himself may be a deception.
There are many theories about the causes of narcissism. According to one theory, the child, who begins to become independent from the mother from the 18th month onwards, will develop narcissistic personality disorder when he cannot receive answers to his needs as quickly and sensitively as before. According to another theory, the abuse and trauma processes experienced in early childhood, that is, the narcissistic fractures of early childhood, pave the way for the narcissistic personality in adulthood.
The percentage of narcissistic personality disorder, which generally begins to emerge at the beginning of adolescence, is less than 1% in the society. . More than half of the cases of narcissistic personality disorder are men.
A narcissistic person comes to a psychologist or psychiatrist not because of his personality traits, but to solve other problems. Self-worth is extremely fragile. They present a very solid self-value to the world and try to live according to it. Generally, they become depressed as a result of the conflict between their self-values and begin therapy.
For these people, the idea of starting therapy is difficult to accept. Because they have such special and superior qualities that they do not need anyone else. At this point, an attempt to end therapy by rejecting all factual interpretations can be observed. When the treatment process is completed successfully, the person gets rid of his own exaggerated expectations and lives a life that is realistic and free from lies in his relationships.
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