Today, the rapid development of technology, the acquaintance of the toddler with digital devices, and the confinement of children to devices such as tablets, televisions and phones, negatively affect the social, emotional and cognitive development of children. There are many research findings that show that if the children born into the age of technology are not limited by their parents in their interaction with digital devices in accordance with their age and development, they have difficulty expressing their emotions, establishing social relationships, and their creativity does not develop.
Unlimited and uncontrolled use of technology affects children's age It causes the child to access information that is not appropriate for his or her development, and causes behavior that is not appropriate for the child's age and development. It is known that some children are warned at a very early age as a result of parents who are rushing between work and home to make a living and fail to notice the changes in the child, and they warn other children in their immediate environment, causing the problem to grow in schools. In recent years, it has been observed that exposure to and use of cigarettes and drugs has decreased to primary school age, and children connected to digital devices have difficulty establishing social relationships and expressing their emotions. These problems, which we experience more intensely especially in metropolitan cities, make it increasingly difficult for us parents to choose a school and ask, "Which school should I send my child to?" Which school in which district? Which teacher and which class?” It brings with it such problems. The right school and the right teacher take second place after the family in shaping the child's life and personality; It directly affects the child's personality, education life, success, self-confidence, career choice, compliance with the rules and communication skills.
The child, who was introduced to some limits and rules in the family until he started primary school, is faced with more systematic and comprehensive rules after starting school. remains. Many children experience difficulties in the process of adaptation to school, but over time, with family-school cooperation and healthy and correct attitudes, this process is largely overcome successfully. However, some children struggle more in this process than their peers; correctly and if timely intervention is not made, the problem may worsen; The child may experience adaptation and behavioral problems such as stubbornness, anger crises, lying, and harmful behavior. So, what can we as parents do at this stage?
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Follow your child closely. Ask him every day, "What was the funniest thing at school today, what was the most interesting thing you heard today, what made you the happiest today?" Ask specific questions such as: and give him/her the opportunity to share with you the time he/she spent at school. Even give examples from your own day. When you do this every day, you will realize that your child shares more things with you.
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Whatever the event he experienced or the behavior he performed; Talk to your child as soon as you and your child are calm and communicative.
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Make eye contact and be empathetic. Tell him that his behavior upsets you, tell him that you cannot understand why he did such a thing, and give him the opportunity to express himself.
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Support their feelings.
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Ask what the solution is, try to encourage them to find the solution themselves, and try to direct them to the solution without giving the answer. If there is a problem behavior, ask how else he could have reacted as a result of the event he experienced. Since the minds of young children have not yet developed in terms of abstract thinking, they may have difficulty finding solutions. In this case, offer your child options and together determine the right behavior for him to apply in a similar event he will experience later. Ensure continuity of behavior by reinforcing his efforts.
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Express clearly what you want him to do, not what he shouldn't do. Try to be encouraging, not discouraging.
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Try to learn about the incident in detail, investigate the possible reasons for your child's behavior, interview the necessary people and collect as much information as possible. Observe the frequency of the behavior, when it occurs most, and how long it lasts.
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Pay attention to which aspects it affects your child (social relations, communication, school success, etc.). .).
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Question the limits you set for your child. Do you set limits appropriate to the child's age and development that will facilitate the child's learning, discipline the child, give him/her the opportunity to develop a sense of responsibility? Are you consistent with these boundaries? Are the boundaries you set supported by the people around you? Are the boundaries you set flexible enough to support the child's self-realization and ability to take responsibility? Are you also in cooperation with the school and teacher; Do you have a common and healthy approach to your child's problem behavior?
If your child's problem behavior continues and you cannot make progress despite all you have done, it would be beneficial to meet with a specialist without wasting any more time. Please remember that the earlier intervention is made, the better results will be obtained.
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