We need to be able to perceive the difference between being dependent or dependent so that we can answer this question
.
Although "being connected" and "being dependent" are often confused, they are actually completely different from each other
concepts. We expect a healthy couple to be committed, not dependent.
What Is It To Be Addicted?
“I can't live without it”,
It is possible to say that you have an addicted
relationship if there are sentences such as "He must be with me when making a decision",
"Either you are mine or your black soil",
"It is dark after that, I cannot find my direction without him". .
In fact, contrary to what we will convey in this article, the type of relationship that is imposed on us in movies and TV series
is exactly with the sentences mentioned above. Relationships that we watch on TV and that are presented to us as true love. We're talking about couples in which both
are blinded by love, unimaginable gestures are made, the man has to
constantly take steps, and the woman has to constantly coax.
What do you think a relationship like this is? How possible? /> Being an addicted couple, which was introduced to us, is a relationship that makes you happy at the beginning and puts you on your feet
. And now you are always desired. You can't even think of a moment
without it, and you're not happy in an environment without it. It's not enough to have a little
anymore, it should always be yours. And, more and more, happiness gives way to anxiety, boredom, collapse
. Just like the cigarette you first started with, like alcohol, like drugs.
“What's wrong with this story that sounds like a fairy tale?” You may be asking. in the end, but people's wishes and hopes can't be one-sided
. No matter how important our partner is in life, our work, friends Our entertainment, our entertainment
are also important at different rates. We cannot live in a single space in life. Being versatile
we need to feed one side and deprive the other side so that we can live a happy and
healthy life. In relationships, there is a big
difference between being committed and being dependent. Relationship commitment is the state of being able to exist separately as individuals and to maintain their relationships with their own lives in a balanced way.
When it comes to addiction in relationships, one of the people (the addicted person) By almost ignoring his
life, he focuses on the relationship he has with the other person, and the balance of the relationship is lost.
In fact, being an addicted person often results from deep-rooted wounds. While this person can not live a happy
life or togetherness, he/she also causes difficulties for his/her partner.
The point we should pay attention to here is; it is the difficulty of the partner who is not dependent in the relationship
to end the relationship. Because the other person makes you feel so special that you don't think of ending the relationship
. There is someone in your life who constantly compliments you, wants to be by your side,
makes you feel like a prince/princess. You are now different from the
people around you. You are superior, more beautiful or handsome than them.
But at the same time, you realize that something is wrong and not normal.
This excessive attention sometimes suffocates you, not leaving even a small space for you to breathe
has begun.
It has become such a paradox that you are unhappy with him, but you do not feel special when he is not
. The absence of him in your life means that you are now a normal human
. Now that crown you were bestowed with is gone.
The best we can do here is to notice it in the first place. Being able to recognize the situation you're in, things that are going bad. Then you will have to make an effort for this dependent relationship where both parties are unhappy
. In general
we observed that in these relationship tables, couples had difficulty
to put things right on their own.
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