Just as each family may have different goals, the family institution will also have its own purpose. The purpose of the family is to provide the most appropriate development opportunity for each member of the family. It is often seen that parents ignore their own development for the sake of raising their children. Of course, sometimes the opposite happens. Children should be taught that mothers and fathers also have certain needs and that they can help their parents while seeking happiness in life. A successful family supports all family members to develop themselves and provides them with a loving environment where they can challenge themselves in life. An unsuccessful family creates an atmosphere where the sense of self does not develop and remains weak, and feelings of dependency and insecurity come to the fore. Mothers and fathers are the most important building blocks of the family. The architects of the family are the parents. In order for parents to become successful architects, they must first look at their own internal structure. Parents who have built this internal structure on a solid foundation will become successful parents with high self-confidence.
Parents with strong self-confidence:
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They value their own values, abilities and importance. They feel deeply.
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They are mothers and fathers who have the joy of life.
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They express their feelings without hesitation.
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They are not afraid to say what they believe in.
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They establish close relationships with each other, their friends, relatives and the people they work with
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They are open to constructive criticism.
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They tolerate setbacks.
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They consider their mistakes and failures as an opportunity to learn.
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They take their strengths into consideration, but they are also very realistically aware of their weaknesses, flaws and lack of knowledge.
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They are honest with themselves in their relationships with others.
Parents with medium self-confidence:
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They have serious doubts about their own acceptability and abilities. The approval of others is very important in evaluating their appearance, performance and achievements. r holds.
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The feeling of insecurity never leaves them.
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Patterns of being dominant or appearing pleasant to others often arise in their relationships with other people. interest.
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Because they are afraid of making mistakes and failing, they avoid taking risks in their jobs, social events and close relationships.
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Lifelong satisfaction Moments when they are happy and feel that they have achieved their wishes are rare.
Parents with low self-confidence:
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They carry a deep sense of worthlessness and uselessness.
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They are neglectful towards themselves, towards others, or towards both themselves and others.
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It is very difficult to please these parents. .
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They are very critical of themselves and extremely sensitive to criticism from outsiders.
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They can be aggressive or overly passive.
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They have a hard time establishing close relationships with people.
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Any kind of struggle can intimidate them
It is true that what you experienced as a child determines the level of self-confidence. However, as a parent, you cannot continue to blame the past for your present feelings. If you do this, you will remain “stuck” in your bad feelings about yourself. Today, as an adult, you have the chance to take responsibility for increasing your self-confidence level and begin to erase the bad traces of the past. Mothers and fathers with high self-confidence will make the greatest contribution to their child's self-confidence development. Let's not forget that children's parents will be mirrors that show them the truth.
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