When separation is basically considered in three categories;
• Separations due to life changes; Graduation, marriage, job change, promotion, etc. distinctions related to processes,
• Relational, situational and spatial distinctions; End of a relationship, divorce, moving from one place to another, loss of money or job,
• Separation and losses resulting from death; The death of a loved one, death in war, death caused by terrorism and death by suicide can be mentioned.
Mourning; It is a natural and universal response that a person gives to losses. Although when we think of mourning, we think of what we experienced after the death of a loved one, grief can be related to the loss of any valued object. The duration, intensity and nature of the mourning process may vary from person to person. Therefore, our mourning process is unique. "Mourn; The psychological response to any loss or change is the compromises we make in order to achieve harmony between our inner world and reality” (V, Volkan 1991).
REACTIONS THAT MAY BE GIVEN DURING THE MOURNING PROCESS
Physical Reactions: Tightness in the heart and throat, shortness of breath, dry mouth, feeling of emptiness in the stomach, not feeling one's body, feeling weak and exhausted, sensitivity to noise, hyperactivity. and energy state.
Ideational Reactions: Disbelief, constantly reconstructing the event, producing alternative scenarios, confusion in thought, thoughts that do not correspond to reality, distraction, forgetfulness, disturbing thoughts and/ or dreams.
Emotional Reactions: Shock, denial, anger, guilt, blame, sadness, anxiety, fear, loneliness, fatigue, helplessness, reluctance, hopelessness.
Behavioral Reactions: Disturbances in sleeping and eating patterns, using alcohol or another substance, avoiding the social environment and stimuli that remind of the lost person and/or being unable to separate from these stimuli, carrying around a belonging belonging to the lost person.
The function of the mourning process;
The mourning process is, in a sense, a process related to adaptation to life. This process is about the restructuring required after major life changes. In the end, a person needs time and space to grieve and digest the loss; Only after a healthy mourning process can the person recover, become stronger and participate in life in a healthy way.
DEPRIVATED MOURNING
Another The type of grief is deprived grief, which refers to the person's grief for a socially ambiguous loss that cannot be openly mourned or supported (Aloi, 2009; Hendry, 2009).
Examples of deprived grief include old It also includes a socially unacceptable relationship such as a relationship with a spouse, a hidden loss such as an abortion, and labeled forms of death such as death due to AIDS.
Deprived grief can increase the severity of the grief experienced by the person because it is not approved by society. This type of grief can be hidden or suppressed for years, but may re-emerge with new losses.
REGARDING THE LOSSES EXPERIENCED;
• At a cognitive level, people know that their loved ones and themselves will die one day. However, he sees accidents, disasters or sudden death as remote for himself and his loved ones; He cannot believe that such an event will happen to him.
• Death may cause people's assumptions about the world and themselves to collapse or change.
• Especially when faced with a sudden and violent loss. The person's perception of the world up to that point may be deeply shaken. This uncontrollable experience may cause the person to question his positive beliefs about the world and himself and to realize his own sensitivities.
• Restructuring these processes can be quite painful for people whose existing beliefs and assumptions about life and people have been destroyed. The more traumatic the loss, the greater its effects on the person's belief and thought system.
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