There is no one who hasn't heard this sentence: "It doesn't matter whether he is a girl or a boy, as long as he is healthy." It is on the lips of all parents who want to have children. While parents are waiting for their baby to be born, sometimes they say "If it's a girl, let's name it like this", and if it's a boy, "Let's name it this", but the sentence always ends the same way: "Let him be healthy, that's enough". Because health comes before the name given to the child and the gender.
Parents' decision to have a child is an important turning point and brings with it many changes and innovations. In addition to these innovations, parents play a very important role in helping children become individuals who think healthily, make decisions, question, research, are self-confident and able to adapt to society. Parents always expect the new child to develop normally and never even want to think that he/she may have special needs. Finally, the baby is born. It takes time for parents to accept the fact that they have a child with special needs and to rearrange their lives with this fact, regardless of the child's level and degree of disability. Their reactions to the difficult situations they encounter during this process include shock, disappointment, denial and guilt, as well as psychological problems. In addition, changes begin to occur in their parenting roles, personal and business lives. It is obvious that parents of children with special needs experience psychological and emotional problems such as somatization, stress, anxiety and depression more frequently than parents of normally developing children.
Lack of time, money and energy to care for the child is among the situations that wear out parents.
It can also be said that parents with special children experience difficulties in fulfilling the requirements of daily life and often experience feelings such as guilt, anger, helplessness, failure and shame. . At the same time, situations such as the number of children in the family, insufficient social support, low income level, marital status and resilience levels towards the difficulties they face play an effective role in experiencing severe mental and emotional problems. People with special needs In order to meet the requirements of having a child, parents first turn to the resources they have, that is, to people in the immediate environment such as mothers, fathers, spouses, friends, and friends. When these resources cannot meet the required requirements, they turn to other resources, namely professionals. The support that parents receive from their close circle or institutions helps them accept the situation of the child with special needs, adapt and cope with the problems. What do parents first notice about their child? The first thing they notice about developmental problems in their children is language abnormalities. In addition, parents notice that their children have conditions such as the absence of different crying types, inability to imitate sounds, movements, postures, looks, inability to understand instructions, and hearing problems. Parents are faced with negative thoughts when they need psychological help to maintain their psychological resilience and meet the needs of their children during these difficult processes. It can be said that parents with these negative thoughts face problems such as low resilience levels, negative self-esteem, and helplessness. Therefore, parents having such feelings and thoughts may cause them to have a negative attitude towards getting psychological help, even though they feel the need to get psychological help. For this reason, it is critical for the development of their children that parents with special children protect their mental health and accept their children's situation as soon as possible. It is also very important that the social support provided to parents is high in helping them cope with this difficult process and protect their mental health. It should not be forgotten that "the biggest fear of all mothers is that their children die, while the biggest fear of mothers with children with special needs is dying before their children." Wishing you healthy days...
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