Asst.Prof.Dr. Onur Okan Demirci said, “No one comes into the world with a lack of self-confidence. Thus, the sense of self-confidence is damaged over time. We exhibit certain behaviors consciously or unconsciously since childhood, and we receive feedback from those around us, especially our family, for each of our behaviors. We evaluate the reactions we receive from the environment and come to a conclusion whether what we do is good or bad. If the child receives appreciation, love and respect from those around him after showing a behavior, he believes that he is valuable and sufficient. On the contrary, if the child constantly receives criticism and punishment from those around him; He will develop a belief that he is bad, incompetent and inadequate. "By repeating such situations and behaviors many times, the child will begin to see himself as worthless and inadequate and will experience the fear of making mistakes and being criticized," he said. It means being pleased with oneself.”
Noting that people with anxiety disorders such as depression and social phobia also have a lack of self-confidence, Asst.Prof.Dr. Demirci said, “Lack of self-confidence is frequently observed in people with substance addiction, eating and personality disorders. Indicator of high self-confidence; "It is a person's satisfaction with himself," he said.
Asst.Prof.Dr. Onur Okan Demirci listed 7 steps to get rid of lack of self-confidence as follows:
“1)First, have mercy on yourself. Stop criticizing yourself, complaining, and wanting to be perfect.
2)Discover your negative self-talk and replace it with more positive thoughts. For example: Increase the thought 'I am a valuable person even if I fail to achieve things from time to time' or 'I am valuable even if I do not receive appreciation from others'.
3)Discover your positive sides. Make a list of the things you have achieved in life.
4)Pay attention to your appearance and clothing. Sit up straight.
5)Take up hobbies. There is definitely something you like and are interested in.
6)Set goals that are important to you. Start by breaking the process into small steps to achieve your goals.
7)Be a good friend to yourself. Show yourself the same understanding, respect and compassion that you show to your closest friend and loved ones. Remember: Your most valuable treasure is your self-respect.”
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