Individuals receive feedback from their behavior since they come out of the womb. Some of these are positive and some are negative feedback. While people who receive positive feedback are happy, successful and have high self-confidence, people who frequently receive negative feedback show symptoms of inadequacy and lack of self-confidence.
Symptoms of Low Self-Confidence;
<Inability to express one's opinion on a subject
Frequent desire to receive support
Shyness, timidity and introversion
Reluctance to say no
Belief that you will be humiliated
Feeling worthless and inadequate vision
Dyslexic individuals may feel inadequate due to academic failure and frequent negative criticism from their family, teachers and friends. If we briefly talk about these;
Pressure by family and teachers before the diagnosis of Specific Learning Disability is made;
Specific learning disability that is not yet recognized, laziness by families and teachers, It can be evaluated as reluctance or opposition. For this reason, many parents and teachers may use punishment, psychological or physical violence against the child. The child who is exposed to these negative situations; They may develop negative attitudes towards school, family and studying, and may become resistant in the following period.
Being excluded at school;
Dyslexia individuals have low school performance due to may be reluctant to listen to lectures and do homework. For this reason, he may be ostracized by his teacher.
Also, he has difficulty in remembering the rules of the game and understanding jokes and metaphors; It may disrupt his social relationships with his friends and cause him to become an outcast.
Being an outcast at home;
The problems he experiences at school may also be reflected at home due to the difficulties he experiences. They may also encounter oppressive and challenging behavior at home, and they may be compared to their siblings. In this case, the child may feel excluded.
Neglect of the teacher in the classroom;
Children's ability to recognize letters and words It should be observed carefully during the reading phase. Although not every difficulty experienced in reading and writing indicates a learning disability, it indicates a suspicion of dyslexia. Therefore, close observation and correct guidance by the teacher is of great importance for early diagnosis.
Leaving the child under stress with challenging behavior in academic studies;
The special learning the child receives After the diagnosis of disability, the parent may act oppressively in order to eliminate the deficit, and this attitude puts the child under more stress. The family should not forget that this is a process and should be patient.
Causing trauma to the individual;
A child who does not experience success may exhibit avoidance behavior in going to school. However, low self-esteem may be observed. In addition, psychological violence by the family or teacher can also cause trauma in the child. These traumas include stealing, wetting the bed, lying, etc. It can cause many negative behaviors. It is necessary to approach the child with understanding and prevent him/her from suffering psychological damage due to existing difficulties.
Depriving the child of praise;
One of the most common problems experienced by children with SLD is the lack of attention from parents and teachers. They do not hear words of praise. Always being made to think that there is a deficiency or inadequacy; It causes the child to feel inadequate and insecure.
The family has the same expectations and compares the child with his or her peer group; . Families should not forget that every child is special
and should discover and develop their own child's strengths.
Regaining Self-Confidence
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Explain what dyslexia is and watch movies and read books about it together; The things you hide and overestimate will give the impression that they are insurmountable problems for them too. When you normalize it, it will be the first constructive step for your child to accept the situation he is in.
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Get support from special education; This will make it easier for him to learn
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Successes, even if small, at home and at school Motivate and reward; He/she will start to have the belief that 'I can succeed' and his/her self-confidence will increase.
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Try to help him/her in doing their homework without forcing them
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Try to help classmates understand what dyslexia means. Ensure that information and examples are provided; When awareness arises, exclusion from friends will decrease.
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Avoid comparing him with his sibling or peer group
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Enable him to discover his strengths
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If you have experienced a traumatic situation before, get psychological support from an expert.
Movie Recommendations;
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Every Child is Special: Stars on Earth
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Journey into Dsylexia
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The Big Picture : Rethinking Dyslexia
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Dyslecksia: The Movie
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Read Me Differently
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