Anger, one of our most basic emotions, is a natural and necessary
emotion for people of all ages. The emphasis in anger management is not the elimination of anger, but its ability to reveal it in a healthy way. It is important to explain to the child that anger is not a bad thing and that the effect wears off after a while. From time to time, being blocked, not understood, not seen, feeling inadequate makes you angry. Anger is a secondary emotion, that is, it contains a different emotion. The underlying emotions are mostly sadness, disappointment, anxiety, fear, shame, guilt. It is easier to let anger arise than to admit such intense emotions. Giving advice to the child in moments of intense anger will not work because the primitive brain is active, "I am here, I am with you." It is more appropriate to open a space for him to experience the feeling by saying. Domestic quarrels, long-lasting illnesses, using anger to reach the goal, constant inhibition of the child, unlimited growing children, constant control and realizing that the child attracts the attention of the parent in anger can increase the intensity of anger. Introducing emotions to the child, being able to talk to the child about their feelings while it is the first step for emotional control, and being a model for them to experience emotions in a healthy way are issues that need to be carefully considered. While aggression is a behavior, anger is an emotion. It interferes with behavior, not emotion. “I accept you and your feeling, but I do not accept your behavior.” Delivering the message will put the child at ease. It is necessary to determine the main reasons underlying the anger and make the necessary intervention. While 1.5-2 year olds may get angry with the theme of not being understood because their language development is not sufficient, for children aged 2.5-6 it is the period when the importance of autonomy and acting on their own increases and thus inhibitions bring intense anger. Not every angry child needs intervention or therapy support. If the moment of anger lasts for a long time, it is seen 4-5 times a day, the child goes crazy at these moments, passes out, that is, if there are tantrums, it may be a good option to consult a specialist.
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