In fact, we should not look far for the secrets of communicating correctly with children. If we can hear the voice of our inner child, it will tell us where we are right and where we are wrong. Of course, other than that, we may not be sure, maybe we think we are doing the right thing, but we cannot think about the consequences, or we may develop automatic behaviors or discourses as we have been treated in the past. Perhaps addressing these points and raising a little more awareness as parents will enable us to establish closer and sincere relationships with our children.
In communication, not only what we say but also how we say it is equally important. This is one of the keys to establishing a healthy communication with the child. The eye contact we make with him/her, our tactile communication, the expression of our face, the gestures and facial expressions we use, our tone of voice, where we talk to him/her or for what purpose we talk to him/her are also very important. As a matter of fact, children immediately notice these and act accordingly.
The communication we establish with our child begins and continues while he is in the womb. As a matter of fact, we aim to reflect the foundations laid in this period on future periods and to develop and grow in a positive way.
First and foremost, we must make children feel that we love and accept them unconditionally. Only when children feel this, can they grow and develop like a flower and acquire positive perceptions about their own selves. “I'm glad I exist in this world. I am a loved and valued creature. "No matter what, I have parents who love me, guide me, and whom I can trust." We must carry the message to them. This message is very important for them to give positive meaning to themselves and life. The answer to the question of how and when to give this message depends on our baby's period in the womb. Our baby should feel that he is in a safe place and that he is loved, even before he opens his eyes to the world, when he is tiny. We can do this by talking to him, touching him, and having fun with him. How will we have fun? Of course, our baby's sense of self does not develop while in the womb and even until some time after birth. He sees himself as a being different from his mother It cannot detect. This will occur over time. For this reason, he thinks of himself as a limb or an organ of his mother, that is, something that belongs to her. He is integrated with the mother. For this reason, he shares with his mother everything he feels, except what she eats and drinks during this process. Therefore, it is very important to spend the pregnancy period comfortably and without being exposed to too much stress. Just as the mother's unhealthy diet or unhealthy habits can negatively affect the physical development of the baby; Likewise, being unhappy and being exposed to intense stress will also negatively affect the baby's emotional development. Both mothers, fathers and those around us should not forget this important point.
In order to have a nice and fun time with our unborn baby, we should talk to him/her frequently. They must hear our voice and begin to recognize it. Of course, we shouldn't be the only ones talking to him... Fathers, grandparents, grandfathers, uncles, aunts... We should also allow people around us that we feel close to communicate with him, and we should try to establish textural communication with him by stroking him frequently, making him feel that we are here and next to him. Laughing a lot and doing the activities we love will make us happy, so our baby will also share this happiness. If we love it, watching comedy movies, listening to music, swimming, yoga exercises that pregnant women can do, meeting and chatting with the people we love, walking outdoors, going on a picnic, reading a nice book that we like, and resting will enable us to have a good time with him while we are still in the womb. Apart from this, accepting the changes in our body in a positive way may be an indication that we will already accept its development and the changes it will make in our lives. As a matter of fact, after our baby is born, nothing will be the same again. No matter how consciously we try to act on the path to becoming a parent, or how many books we read on this subject, and no matter how much education we receive, some things will remain missing, and when we hold our baby in our hands, we may forget all we know or confuse them all. At such times, do not panic, stay calm. Because it happens to all of us and our baby is already here to show us the way. Mom dad They will teach us how to be from time to time. Instead of feeling helpless, enjoy this experience to the fullest.
The correct communication methods, which we laid the foundations of with our baby while he was in the womb, continue to differ slightly after our baby is born. The communication we establish with our baby during this period is associated with the satisfaction of his needs.
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