The new individual joining the household may pose a threat to the younger ones. That's why jealousy can slowly start.
Many parents always have a question mark in their joy when they receive the news of a new baby. I wonder? Does he get jealous a lot? How should we behave? Will it be negatively affected?
Similarly, like the parents, many questions arise in the mind of the child who hears this news. Do my parents love him more? Is it cuter? Will their love for me decrease?
The child is faced with the question "What Will I Become Now?" So far the parents have only taken care of him, bought him gifts and taken him to the park. Thinking that all this will change with the new baby, the child does not want it and starts to get jealous.
How Do We Know If He's Jealous?
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He becomes quiet and withdrawn.
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He may behave very well towards his sibling in the presence of others, but may behave in a harmful way when left alone.
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He may develop fears that did not exist before, but started with the baby joining the family.
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Wants to sleep with the parents.
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He may exhibit baby-like behavior (crawling, talking like a baby, etc.)
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Asking the parents to feed the food.
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Wetting the bed, leaking poop.
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Aggressive behavior may begin. These behaviors may not only be towards people, babies, but also towards animals, toys and objects.
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She may act as if her baby does not exist.
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If she goes to nursery. He/she may not want to go.
What Should Parents Do and What Shouldn't They Do?
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Brother, sister It should not be said that he is a child, and it should not be forgotten that he is still a child.
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If he does not go to nursery or nursery, he should not be sent to nursery or nursery at birth. The child will feel excluded.
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It should be announced at the time of pregnancy that the baby will join the family, it should not be waited until birth.
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His/her opinions should be taken into consideration when choosing the name.
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One should not make too many concessions just because there is a baby. The rules that were valid in the past should continue in the same way.
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Parents should divide the labor. Play times should be arranged for him and he should be taken care of.
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Small gifts should be bought for the baby while shopping.
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If the baby is his/her If clothes or toys are to be given, her opinion should be taken into account.
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She should also be given small tasks in baby care.
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Guests should pay direct attention to the new baby. They should not show it, they should take care of the baby first and then turn to the baby.
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Since the baby cannot meet its own needs, it should be explained in an appropriate language that they will meet its needs for a while.
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When you feel jealousy, try bringing the baby closer instead of pushing him/her away.
Jealousy is a natural emotion, but too much can harm both children and the family. If you cannot control jealousy, it would be beneficial to get help from an expert.
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