Adolescence begins at the age of 11-12 and continues until the early twenties, it is a period that includes rapid physical, mental and emotional changes.
In this period;
- There may be ups and downs due to changes.
- There may be distraction.
- They can give importance to their external opinion and other people's thoughts, they can be affected by the outside world quickly.
- Because they are trying to form an identity, They can choose different identities.
- Their opinions can change quickly, and the things they like and like can change quickly.
- There may be rebellion against authority.
- There may be opposition to the parent. Intellectual conflicts may occur. There may be an effort to break the rules and create their own rules.
- They try to be individual, they try to be independent.
- Their hand-arm coordination is weak, so there may be clumsiness. In addition, one reason for clumsiness is that the mind cannot perceive the body from its true length.
- It is self-centered and desires to stand out in public.
- At the same time, friends may be more important than family and friends may resemble each other
he is protective towards his friends, he cannot tolerate interference in his friendships.
Basically, when communicating with adolescents, tolerance should not be abandoned. It is important to communicate using the I language instead of the you language, without judging, blaming and stinging the person. Judgmental, condescending, questioning expressions should be avoided. One should respect their efforts to be an individual and not interfere. He should respect the effort to be an individual in the relationship and pay attention to individual boundaries. Instead of displaying an overly oppressive attitude in family rules, talking together and listening to their ideas and making a joint decision makes the child feel that their ideas are valued and respected. It is important to be consistent in the decisions taken and the rules set, and to explain the reasons for the decisions. Trusting and showing confidence in communication is as important as giving confidence. It is important to remember that they are no longer children. In this period, not to go over the irritability, difficulties and sorrows of the young person, telling him that he will overcome all these, must be approached with a grudge. Parents should give the message that they are there for their children whenever they want. He should be careful not to criticize, complain, or embarrass others in front of others. If you think there is a behavior that needs to be corrected, you should definitely talk about it alone. It is important to get to know your friends, to get to know them more moderately and to be accepting instead of controlling them in an oppressive way. It is important to support positive friendships, such as supporting positive actions. Finally, it should not be forgotten that as parents, your expectations from your children should be in line with the child's skills and wishes. However, every person is different, it is the healthiest to know and act according to their needs.
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