My client has been complaining about his wife coming home late lately; “My wife no longer treats me romantically like she used to, she stays at work for long hours. He doesn't want to chat with me, when he comes home he always says he's tired and falls asleep on the sofa. He used to take care of our son, now he doesn't even want to care. I don't understand why this man has changed so much? ” he asked.
When we listened to his wife; “We got married because we fell in love with each other, we used to make surprises for each other. I would come home excited. My wife changed a lot after becoming a mother. He always walks around the house in sweatpants and is obsessed with cooking and cleaning. She is constantly checking on me. He intervenes as if I were a child, from the food I eat at lunch to the clothes I wear. Since our son was born, we have been sleeping in a bed, three of us. Sometimes it covers us at night. "I think he ignores me as a wife at home, I feel suffocated," she said.
Don't See Your Spouse as Your Child
Sometimes women get so caught up in the role of mother that they treat their spouses just like they treat their children. They protect and protect him, and try to do whatever they want instantly. They are extremely giving and self-sacrificing. They ignore their own physical, emotional and sexual needs.
Although men seem to like this attention and care at first, after a while they begin to see their wives as their mothers, not as their life partners or the woman they love. This situation not only reduces the healthy communication between the couple, but also reduces sexual energy.
Ask yourself;
- Your spouse is responsible for eating, dressing style and other matters like a mother. Do you intervene?
- Do you constantly feel the need to control him?
- Do you approach him with a mother's compassion and protect him? Do you make various decisions without notice?
- Do you sleep with your children in your bedroom and force your spouse to sleep in the living room?
If your answer is "YES", make a change today. Because if affection between couples is more dominant than lust, it will wear out the relationship after a while.
Remember that he already has a mother, he will share life with her, not the love of a second mother. He needs a lover who loves passionately.
Note: the ethical principles value of client stories has been changed.
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