Adolescence Period: refers to the end of childhood and an intermediate period in the transition to adulthood. Although it is fully accepted as a period, according to some authorities, it is actually a transitional stage. In other words, this transition is rather than a fully settled spiritual structure; It refers to an important stage in which unsettled, tides are experienced, indecision in identity formation or emotional fragility is experienced. While the initial phase of adolescence is experienced from the age of 12-13, middle adolescence begins from the age of 14-15, and late adolescence is experienced between the ages of 16 and 18. Mentally, young people in this period experience a natural process that we call identity confusion internally. The concept of family, the concept of society, the concepts of value, religion, belief, love, etc. Both the logical existence and emotional ties of such concepts are questioned again. However, there may be possible obstacles to the adolescent during this interrogation process. In addition, it is also possible for adolescents to have to cope with these obstacles. However, coping is sometimes a very powerful skill for adolescents, and sometimes it means an insufficient skill. Most teenagers feel omnipotent in everything. They see themselves strong enough against everything and every concept or every constant in life and they think that they can overcome everything.
On the other hand, the consequences of fragility and extreme emotions during such a difficult transition period, the intense consequences of a possible mental disorder. means to live. Adolescence is a period in which mood or affective disorders can be seen intensely. There may be a period in which depression and anxiety disorders can also be experienced frequently, but sometimes they can be experienced at sub-threshold levels. In fact, some inexperienced clinicians may interpret a possibly natural condition in adolescent youth as depression or anxiety disorder. Because an adolescent teenager is in a transition period that does not fit the already known “normal”.
His feelings are sometimes incomprehensible and sometimes ignored. His ideas are sometimes incomprehensible and sometimes ignored. Many times his belongings are not valued. In fact, the things he did as a child, the inventions were appreciated at that time. Because adults are young � While he often cares about his child's skills, an adolescent may see the skills of a teenager as inadequate for his age. They may not give the necessary and appropriate response. Or they may show negative reactions.
They may be intensely interested in living their life with its diversity and some vital and entertaining life elements. It is necessary to develop an empathetic view for the parents of an adolescent teenager. Because for a parent with an adolescent teenage child, there are uncertainties about him that he did not foresee. This worries the parent and their possible reaction; It could be to prevent it. However, the problem here is; it is the attitude of the parent against the discourses and wishes of the adolescent rather than whether to prevent or not. Is he empathetic enough? Can you use enough me language? Does he listen enough? What about actions? We must be mindful of the actions of an adolescent teenager and remember that of course he can make mistakes when taking action. Maybe it's okay if he makes some mistakes. It will be important to get support for the uncertainty that the parent feels, when it is actually a situation that the parent has to deal with. Because, even if it is known that an adolescent teenager can go into operational attacks, this is mostly due to the parent's lack of respect or belief in him. We say impulsive movements, for example, “adolescent-like movements” can be called among the people.
Adolescence is true; very frightening parents. However, when we can switch to parenting shaped according to it, not classical parenting in the management of the process; That's when we can be successful. The process can progress both for him and for you.
And if your young child, who is in the adolescence period, exhibits behavioral changes, does not open up to you or especially does not show and share his feelings; stop right here. Shouldn't he get support now?
Imagine that he needs support and ask him about it first. If he refuses, maybe problems with us has. Let's go and see if the source of the problems between us is maybe we are the parents, you will not be giving the message "You are the problem, that's why we are going to get support". Or instead, it may be easier to bring in support with an approach such as “you know we have relational problems, and let's go get support to solve it, maybe we parents are the source of the problem”.
Hope every child has a healthy adolescence. ,
Goodbye..
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