Behavior problems arise as a result of children expressing their internal conflicts into behavior. These problems vary depending on psychological and physical reasons.
Disobedience
Children constantly measure their parents' limits. The purpose of doing this is to gain individuality and autonomy. Sometimes parents' high expectations cause the child to disobey. Unless the mother and father show sufficient interest and concern for the child, this problem becomes the child's way of saying "I am here."
Aggressive Behavior
This type of behavior includes biting, hitting, damaging property ( Behaviors such as vandalism) are included. Children who show vandalism tend to damage things that do not belong to them. Children who show aggression basically appear as insecure children. Since they do not expect good behavior towards them from outside, their primary reaction is to attack. Various areas should be created for the child in order to reduce the child's aggressive impulses. Impulse control programs are efforts to prevent such behaviors. For example, the 'broken record technique' is one of these studies. Giving the same answer using the same sentences to a child who constantly insists on something is a part of this technique.
Term Tantrums
Children are expected to be able to control their anger after the age of 4. However, if the parent is constantly angry and reflects this anger, the child may learn this behavior through observation or modeling and show similar reactions. In order to change this behavior, it is necessary to be the right role model and benefit from positive and negative reinforcements.
Stealing or Taking Without Permission
Since children cannot develop a sense of belonging until the age of 6, they cannot understand what belongs to them and what does not. A sense of ownership develops around the age of 8. After this age, if someone takes things that do not belong to them without permission, it may be perceived as a problem. Such problems mostly occur in children who experience emotional deficiency and dissatisfaction. It is a different version of saying “I am here”. In such cases, not immediately blaming the children, but not approving their behavior. It is necessary.
Do not lie
Children may not be able to distinguish between what is right and what is wrong until they are 6 years old. They can describe and fictionalize something that did not happen as if it did happen. At the age of 8, their ability to judge reality develops. He is expected to be able to distinguish between right and wrong. The contradictory attitudes of parents towards the truth are often situations that make children accustomed to lying. Fear of punishment or blame is at the forefront among the reasons that push people to lie. Before parents label their children as liars, they need to investigate the reasons behind this.
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