No living thing on earth needs the care and protection that a newborn baby needs. All the positive/negative behaviors of a baby's environment, and especially its mother, leave clear traces on its life. The extent to which heredity and environment influence our behavior is constantly debated. Developments in recent years indicate that while the inherited part determines our tendencies, the environment shapes what kind of personality traits these tendencies will turn into.
The only person a newborn baby cares about in the first place is its mother. The first thing that comes to mind is that the mother's primary duty is to meet her baby's basic needs (hunger, warmth, diaper cleaning, physical ailments, etc.). However, another need that should not be overlooked in the first year when basic needs come to the fore is the feeling of trust. It is very important that the baby learns to trust an adult. Because there is a very deep and strong relationship between trust in the environment and trust in oneself. If a person trusts himself, he is not afraid of his environment, but if he does not trust himself, he is afraid of his environment and feels helpless. It is as important for a person to gain a sense of confidence in his early years as it is for the foundation of the building to be solid.
Intuitionism, which we call the "sixth sense", is one of the expressions most frequently used in our society, especially by our mothers. Many of us have heard sentences like, “I feel like it won't be good for you to go there, or something tells me you should say this…” So, what do our babies do while we adults sense things? This part is very important: Babies transfer the things they intuit completely into their subconscious. They can easily sense whether their mother's attitude towards them is sincere or forced, affectionate or tense. And they achieve the formation of a sense of trust by using the power of intuition.
Among the most important factors in helping the baby gain the basic sense of trust is the ANXIOUS PARENTAL figure. This situation is quite common and is a very troublesome process for a baby's future. An anxious parent is someone who cannot take on the responsibilities that life brings and who does not fully understand the parenting role. They are people who are not horny. Often, these people's own mothers or fathers are also anxious individuals. Because anxiety is a very contagious emotion. The baby internalizes his parent's anxiety and becomes a candidate to become a constantly worried and anxious adult in the future. It is important for parents to evaluate whether they have an anxious lifestyle before becoming parents. Although the state of anxiety cannot be solely a benefit of the parenting role, it also causes difficulties in daily functionality.
Another factor that is important for the basic sense of trust is the CONSISTENT CYCLE. It is very important that the nutrition and sleep the baby needs follow a cycle. We can briefly call this order. After the baby joins the family, parents expect their baby to adapt to them. However, what needs to happen is that it is shaped according to the baby and an order is established. Feeding at the same times every day and having regular sleep hours during the day and in the evening are the sources of confidence that the baby needs as he grows. Of course, we are not talking about a military discipline, but we should not overlook the issues that need to be taken into consideration to establish order. Adults who live a consistent life in the first years of life are seen to have easier and more positive academic and social lives.
There is an expression I use all the time: Everyone can be a parent biologically, but not everyone can experience this feeling emotionally. Not everyone is ready. . What I see as a very common attitude in our society is that the baby is seen as a toy. And I see that the parents and the environment who showed unlimited, permissive and inconsistent behavior towards this toy ended up in counseling centers and hospitals after about five or six years. “Do you have a magic stick? The child will start school and things are not going well.” We are carrying out awareness activities for all segments of our society in order to prevent this situation from happening.
We, as experts, always work to help wherever needed, wherever we are, and we do it with pleasure. However, we want things to be heard and noticed a little more. Training programs should be followed more, More books should be read, the profile of parents looking at smart phones should decrease, there should be more fathers who do not miss their children's bedtime in the evening in order to earn more (out of necessity), there should be more parents who take pens-notebooks-books out of their bags instead of taking tablets out of their bags to keep their children busy...
Necessary What's happening is just a little change. PLEASE think before you become a parent!
What do the words development and change mean to you? How much of a place does it take in your life?
Raising a child is shaping an adult.
Raising a child is a parent raising himself.
Raising a child is the future.
Raising children means responsibility and sacrifice.
Raising children means setting an example.
Raising children is teamwork.
Raising children means studying, studying, is to read.
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