“What do we expect from life”? There are many different answers to the question, but the wish to "have a happy and healthy family" is perhaps the best known. The family institution also has basic requirements to ensure a happy family. The foundations of the family institution must be healthy.
A healthy family forms the basis of a healthy society. A healthy family derives its strength from a healthy husband-wife relationship.
A healthy marriage relationship has the power to create positive effects on the mental and physical health of individuals. Family members act rationally when faced with any problem or problem. In healthy families, roles are clear and complement each other.
The basis of the family lies in a healthy couple relationship. A stressful husband-wife relationship directly reflects stress on all members of the family. The communication skills that spouses have, getting along with each other, and displaying loving and affectionate attitudes towards each other are the strongest keys to protecting the mental health of their children. They cope with stressful events very well. They take responsibility for every problem in their lives.
The factor that makes communication between spouses effective in marriages is that spouses take each other's thoughts, ideas and feelings into consideration. Couples with healthy communication trust each other and express their opinions without fear of being judged.
Spouses in a Healthy Marriage;
• They are loyal to each other and have a sense of trust.
• They are also each other's friends.
• They both love and respect each other.
• They know how to accept each other as they are.
• They have common goals/dreams for the future.
• They manage to resolve conflicts in a healthy way.
• They can express their feelings and thoughts to each other clearly, without fear or anxiety, and they do not criticize or judge each other.
• They support each other's personal development.
• They have a regular and healthy sexual life.
• Spending time together They make plans and enjoy the time they spend. • They easily solve problems arising from financial matters together. • They do not experience many conflicts arising from each other's families and they draw their own family boundaries.
• They have common ideas about raising children.
• They are careful not to use words that will hurt each other during discussions. • They do not use physical or psychological violence against each other.
A Healthy Family Begins with a Healthy Husband-Wife Relationship
Families have critical importance on the physical, emotional, spiritual and social development of their children. The basis of a healthy family is a healthy marriage relationship. A family life with healthy communication between spouses is taken as a model by children. Positive emotions and attitudes such as love, respect, kindness, understanding, tolerance and patience that husband and wife display to each other are observed by children. Spouses' communication and conflict resolution skills also set an example for the rest of the family. Children learn and demonstrate how to react to negativities such as stress, conflict, and frustration, mostly based on their parents' reactions. Children who exhibit behaviors such as anger or aggression, especially during school age, often have such characteristics in their families.
What are the benefits of a healthy marriage?
Research shows that;
• The physical and mental health of individuals in a healthy marriage is better than those who are not married. The rate of dying from heart attack, suffering from liver cirrhosis and attempting suicide is lower in married individuals than in unmarried individuals.
• The average life expectancy of married people is longer than that of unmarried people. • Married people have higher income levels than unmarried people.
Research has shown that the same results are not valid for couples living together without marriage. In addition, in unhealthy marriages where spouses exhibit negative and hostile attitudes towards each other, individuals have difficulty in healthy marriages. It has also been found that their immune systems are weaker and they get sick more often, they are more prone to depression, their children get sick more easily and their adaptation levels are lower compared to other people.
Every marriage is as special as fingerprints…
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