Coping with Aggression and Anger in Children

Term tantrums and aggression occur within the normal development period; It starts at the age of 2 and continues severely until the age of 4, and is expected to decrease significantly after the age of 6. If aggressive behavior continues to be severe after the age of 6, it means that there is an adaptation problem. Children go through different developmental periods at each age. They try to adapt to new situations throughout the period. At the end of each period, they are expected to adapt to new features and situations. If the child moves on to the next period without adapting to the characteristics of the age period, adaptation problems arise. If aggressive behavior continues to be severe after the age of 6, regardless of the situation, the child may have an adjustment problem related to anger. If not intervened correctly, tantrums and aggressive behavior will continue to increase.

Misbehaviors That Cause Aggression

• Unnecessarily preventing the child's behavior

• Criticizing and ignoring the child's behavior and wishes

• Frequently punishing the child

• Having a negative role model around the child

• No limits being placed on the child

Things that should not be done:

• Being a negative model for the child. Yelling, swearing, punishing by hitting.

• Remaining insensitive to the child's aggressive behavior.

• Doing whatever he wants because he behaves aggressively.

• Trying to explain logical things when the child is angry.

• Comparing the child with others

What needs to be done:

• To set effective limits and rules for the child.

• The child is able to release his negative emotions and , after calming down, explaining the consequences of aggressive behavior.

• Including the child in group activities where he can release his energy and increase his social interaction.

• Basic to meet their needs in a timely and sensitive manner.

• Children; Respecting and supporting their desires, desires, curiosity and entrepreneurship.

Under the emotion of anger, there are usually different emotions or feelings. tar

• Inadequacy

• Worthlessness

• Disappointment

• Shame

• Fear

• Sadness

• Anxiety

• Like surprise…

To understand the real emotion underlying the emotion of anger and It is important to ensure expression of this. If the child cannot make sense of his true feelings or has to suppress them, his anger reactions increase even more. What should be done to increase emotional expressions?

• Share your own emotions

• Ask your child about his/her feelings regularly

• Watch their body language and provide feedback to pick up non-verbal signs of their emotions.

• Pay attention to any changes in their behavioral patterns, as this may indicate that some emotions are being repressed.

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• Organize games and activities to understand and express emotions correctly. Thanks to the activities, the child gains practice and learns to express his emotions correctly.

Simple game suggestions: Creating an emotion dictionary with pictures expressing emotions from magazines and newspapers or Playing a charades game without words, with the aim of understanding emotional expressions only through gestures and facial expressions. Various games like this can be created that involve understanding emotions and emotional expressions. Books specifically for children on the theme of anger and emotions, or painting, playing with dough and toys to express emotions also contribute to emotional expression. There are many methods like this, more are up to your creativity.

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